Difficult Personalities Bonus Tip and Action Step

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Difficult personalities don’t have to stress you out – bonus tip!

Difficult personalities — and finding time to deal with them successfully — was the focus of a post I recently shared. It was titled Difficult Personalities – Timely Tips to Ease Things Up! and it included 3 tips for reducing your reactivity, accessing your power, and using gratitude to shift your perspective.

Today I have another tip and action step to help you shift away from a victim stance and take the reins of any situation. 

It’s all in how you view your situation and what you tell yourself about it. If you focus on the difficulties presented by so-called difficult personalities, you are undercutting your power from the get go. But you can make a different choice. So let’s take a look at the bonus tip, shall we?

Bonus Tip:

To change your approach, revise your language.

You can facilitate your personal growth by focusing on how you describe problems. By re-framing situations to feature your power of choice, you stimulate your creative problem-solving ability.

Action Step:

When you feel others are taking your time, rephrase this as “I am giving them my time.” Explore what motivates you to make this choice. Once you weigh the benefits and the costs, you are in the position to consider fresh options.

Exploration:

Examining your motivations might feel like pulling up a plant with an extensive root system! Many habitual time drains carry a burden of history, unspoken expectations and trade-offs. However, with patience, you can untangle these elements. Try jotting down each issue as it surfaces. By “chunking it down” into separate challenges, you keep the situation from becoming overwhelming.

Start by clarifying the least highly charged issue that contributes to your current predicament. What is, realistically, the worst thing that could happen if you no longer give over your time? What strengths would you need to develop? What might be the long-term benefits?

Remember to include the advantages of clarifying your relationships. By refusing to participate in interactions that foster resentment, you clear a path for aboveboard re-negotiations and increased trust. What could be a better use of your time than that?

As you practice, you’ll discover first-hand how dramatically the act of changing your perspective and your language helps you realign your motivation and tap your hidden power!

And speaking of the things we tell ourselves, you know we all have voices that chatter at us throughout the day. The Inner Critic is one of them. Learning to recognize (and counter) this destructive voice is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself.

You see, the Inner Critic is a negative, debilitating and constant presence in your life.  And it’s not just the words! It’s the judgmental tone, the rolling eyes, and the scolding wag of the index finger. Beyond sapping your energy and confidence, your Inner Critic robs you of time and profoundly distorts how you see others and how you feel about yourself.

So, what can you do?

Give yourself the gift of my Exercise and Guide Book titled “These Critical Voices Are Driving Me Crazy!” How to Use Positive Self-Talk to Save Your Sanity and Your Time! This book offers simple, practical exercises, checklists and tips for learning to recognize and counter the critical voices that disrupt and hurt you.

“This guidebook is by a secret genius as far as I’m concerned.
Her name is Paula Eder and she is absolutely brilliant
when it comes to how to be in relationship with self and
how to be in relationship with time.”
Heather Dominick
http://BusinessMiracles.com/

You hold the power to make conscious choices about the kinds of messages you give yourself. As you exercise this power, you’ll develop new clarity and confidence – and transform your time. “These Critical Voices Are Driving Me Crazy!” opens the door and gives you a roadmap, so don’t wait. Click this link to get started on your empowering journey today!

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