Find Time to Give Your Life Shape with Boundaries

The Time Finder with Paula Eder

The way you use your time is the way you live your life.

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Posted on November 10, 2009, under Time Boundaries.

Finding time to honor yourself, your time, and your relationships with boundaries is one of the most important time choices you can make in your life!

If you’re a reader of The Time Finder, you know that I often explore Time Boundaries here. That’s because boundaries (of any sort) are so fundamental to knowing who you are and what is important to you.

Boundaries define and give shape, wherever and whenever they are employed. Think about it. A person without boundaries has no distinct shape. He or she may seem very agreeable, saying yes to everything, indiscriminately. But what that “agreeableness” means, in reality, is that:

Genuine relationship is elusive at best. It’s difficult to get close to and interact intimately with this person, because you cannot know her/his values or preferences. If the answer to everything is “Yes” the person’s priorities and core values remain effectively hidden.

Disappointment is inevitable. It is impossible to get everything done – so this person’s “yes” is not meaningful. It may sound agreeable, but without the means to follow through, it will often lead to feeling let down.

Unfortunately, boundaries seem to be often seen as limiting. Reframing that, I would say that they are certainly defining. I would not call them limiting, however. They offer you traction as you move through your day (and your “To Do List”). Boundaries provide a very powerful way to take control of your time and your life so that you can live your values and focus your energy on your goals!

Be they time boundaries or relationship boundaries, using boundaries helps to give you shape – in much the same way that bones and muscle do.

The more you practice using boundaries, the better shape you’ll be in and the more stamina you’ll have for whatever life sends your way!

Are time and relationship boundaries a part of your repertoire as you move through your day? I’d love to hear how you are moving toward using time boundaries in your life.

Want to learn how to set effective boundaries to honor yourself, your time, and your relationships? You can ask for the time and space you need, and get it, too! Claim your FREE MP3 of “Honoring Your Time With Boundaries” – a recent teleclass – and discover tools to move you toward a stronger self and stronger relationships! To take your next step, click HERE and grab your MP3! When you sign up you will also receive (if you don’t already) our weekly Finding Time Tips, our monthly Award-Winning Finding Time E-zine, and our Finding Time Personal Boundary Template! All FREE – our gifts to you!

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