Find Time to Stop Listening to Your Inner Critic and Reclaim Your Joy, Power and Purpose!

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Find Time to Stop Listening to Your Inner Critic and Reclaim Your Joy, Power and Purpose!

Posted on May 13, 2010, under Ask Paula, Time and Energy.

Finding time to let go of the draining and debilitating messages that your inner critic whispers in your ear is an effort well worth undertaking. So many of us are plagued by this droning voice!

Here’s a question from one reader …

Barbara in Cincinnati writes:

Dear Paula,

Thank you for your E-zine. The topics you write about are just exactly what I need to explore!

I don’t think I’m critical, and I’m not aware of my critic or her voice; so I don’t think this part is big in my life.

But things do bother me a lot. I am easily irritated by others, and find I never have enough time. I always feel I “should” be accomplishing something other than what I am doing.

Can you help me?

Hi Barbara,

I think I can help you get to the bottom of this!

It is positive that you are in touch with your feelings. Use this access as an avenue to explore the distorting nature of your inner critic.

The first step is learning to identify her. Absolute statements that include words like “should”, “ought to”, and “must”, are clues. So are verbal and nonverbal judgments about yourself and/or others. Examples might include feeling statements like:

“You’re so dumb!” (Translated to “I’m SO dumb”) or
“I’m just no good”, or
“Who do you think YOU are”?

To get acquainted with your critic, I suggest you keep an “inner critic” journal, or diary, like a food diary. In it, document all messages derived from your critic. That will provide a frame for you. The more swiftly you can identify this subself, the more effectively you can reduce her potency.

Counter her messages with your objective, adult voice or with an affirmation.

With time and practice, this becomes more automatic. As a result, you will develop more positive control over your life and your time choices.

To your time success,

Paula

PS: I just learned about a Free Teleclass that a friend of mine, Paula Gregorowicz of The Paula G Company, will be offering on Thursday, May 20 at Noon (ET). It’s titled “Discover 3 Common Pitfalls to Creating a Life & Career You Love & How to Avoid Them.” In this class Paula, who’s a dynamic and gifted coach and trainer, will talk about how to move away from the “should’s” that our inner critic uses to keep us stuck in careers and other pursuits that don’t really fit. I think you’ll find this an eye-opening and empowering teleclass!

What if you could find another hour every day? You can! You are invited to sign up for your FREE Finding Time Success Kit. It puts 3 key tools for your time success right into your hands! Grab it and see how you can recharge your energy, reduce overwhelm and frustration, and come to learn that 24 hours really ARE enough!

Let’s explore time together …

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