Finding Time Using Carrots Not Consequences!

The Time Finder with Paula Eder

The way you use your time is the way you live your life.

Finding Time Using Carrots Not Consequences!

Posted on July 30, 2008, under Time Boundaries.

Finding time by setting time boundaries can present interpersonal challenges. As we continue our series on time boundaries, let’s look at how to meet some of those challenges!

Rewards trump consequences.
When setting and maintaining time boundaries, it’s really, really important to remember that rewards for people, especially children, are far more effective than consequences.

When you’re asking people to respect your time boundaries, the key is to explain the reward when you explain the boundary. That will be far more effective for you than becoming angry at someone for interrupting you after you have asked them not to.

Follow-through is key.
Make sure to follow through with the reward and even note that you mentioned this previously. This helps to emphasize that you appreciate what they have done and are following through on your end of the bargain.

Rewards may help you, too!
Setting a reward also diminishes any feelings of discomfort or guilt you may feel as you work to be assertive and follow-through with maintaining your time boundaries.

Have you used rewards in setting time boundaries for yourself?

How has it worked for you?

Let’s explore time together …

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