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Find Abundant Time with a Quick Shift of Perspective
Posted on August 16, 2010 by Paula, under Time and Energy.
Finding time that feels spacious and energizing lifts you out of the doldrums!
So how can you find quality time that frees you? Sometimes it’s simply a quick change in attitude that brings the sunshine right inside you.
Here’s one mantra that I’ve found helpful:
Engaging fulfills me, acquiring depletes me!
This is a powerful perspective to cultivate. Shifting your goal from acquiring to engaging expands both your vitality AND your sense of time! Here’s a quick example of how this works in practice:
Let’s say you must meet with people you don’t know well. Perhaps they might help advance your career. You nervously wonder if you have what they’re looking for. If only you had more time to prepare! Your energy starts to drop.
Then, you remind yourself; you’ll manage well enough regardless, AND you have an idea you’d love to share with them. Suddenly, your energy and enthusiasm return! As you relax, you enter into spacious time.
How did you achieve this turnaround? By “rediscovering” your inner abundance!
With a seemingly small shift, you moved yourself from a scarcity perspective, where you felt anxious to acquire something, to an abundance mentality. Coming from that mentality of abundance, you remember that you have something that you want to offer. When you are acting from that place your energy is very different – not constricted and anxious … rather, it is expansive and freeing!
This is the daily magic of wholehearted engagement. It’s like diving into a wave and letting it carry you forward as it crests. Your desire to participate fully in life and in the moment opens your heart and your mind. You fully savor the moment, where all of your power of choice resides!
You are far more likely to feel contented at the end of a day of open-handed involvement. Try it and see … and let me know how it goes for you … I’d love to hear!
And don’t forget nourishment for your creative soul! Though the call with Artist and Creativity Coach Ellene Breedlove Davis is over, you can still access the FREE MP3 by clicking the link for: Finding Time to Be Creative: Portrait of the Artist. When you use your creativity to enhance your life, you will develop even more incentive for developing your best ideas and making them a reality.
What if you could find another hour every day? You can! You are invited to sign up for your FREE Finding Time Success Kit. It puts 3 key tools for your time success right into your hands! Grab it and see how you can recharge your energy, reduce overwhelm and frustration, and come to learn that 24 hours really ARE enough!
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Find Time to Manage Change … Just Ask Paula!
Posted on February 25, 2010 by Paula, under Ask Paula, Transitions and Time.
Finding time for dialogue with members of the Finding Time community is one of my favorite things! We invite readers’ questions and comments – and I love highlighting them here, most Thursday’s. Read on – and please feel invited to join in!
Here’s a question about dealing with sudden change, from Theresa in Chicago:
Dear Paula,
I need your help for a sudden change that my family is confronted with! My partner must relocate to Atlanta within weeks to keep his sales manager position.
He is our main breadwinner, and his saying no isn’t an option in this economy. But I have no experience moving to a new location, and must ready my 2 school-aged children, as well!
My head is spinning, I’ve lost my appetite and I can’t think or sleep. But everyone is counting on me! Can you please advise me how to make it through this ordeal? I hope you can answer this right away.
Thanks so much.
Theresa
And here’s my response …
Hi Theresa
You certainly have a lot on your plate! Here are some ideas for you to consider, as you navigate this challenging time!
- The first thing I would suggest is to stop and find a comfortable place to sit, perhaps in a favorite room. Close your eyes and become aware of your breathing. Make sure you are breathing deeply and from your belly.
- Next, create an affirmation that you can take with you at all times. For example, “I’ll get through this one minute at a time,” or “Step by step will get me there.” Use this as a mantra and a guide. Also, don’t be shy about changing it as things evolve. You can adapt your tools to your needs at each stage!
- Be creative about options, and flexible. Family members may be unsettled for a while. So it may help to relax your expectations a bit until new routines can be established.
- Concretize everything in writing, including an ongoing list to record items as they come to you. That frees up your mind for other tasks. Focus on one thing at a time. Validate even the smallest successes. This is key!
- Delegate tasks and ask for help. Engage your children in age-appropriate activities. That helps them develop understanding and ownership of the move.
I hope you find this helpful.
Best of luck to you … I’ll be thinking about you as your move unfolds!
Paula
What kinds of sudden changes have you had in your life? How did you cope? Do you have time questions you’d like me to explore here? Please drop me a line at paula@thetimefinder.com – I’d love to hear!
Oh, and don’t forget to join me on Wednesday, March 3 at 7PM ET as I interview Certified Life Coach and Professional Organizer Maggie McCauley, LICSW about moving yourself “From Chaos to Peace—Creating an Inspired Workspace.” Maggie will let you in on the secrets to stop letting chaos and clutter drain your time and energy, sap your creativity, and cost you money! Be sure to grab your free seat and join us!
What if you could find another hour every day? You can! You are invited to sign up for your FREE Finding Time Success Kit. It puts 3 key tools for your time success right into your hands! Grab it and see how you can recharge your energy, reduce overwhelm and frustration, and come to learn that 24 hours really ARE enough!
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Find Time to Prepare for the “Expected” Unexpected: 3 Tips
Posted on February 23, 2010 by Paula, under Time Management Skills, Transitions and Time.
Finding time to deal with sudden change and the unexpected is a time management challenge that we all face from time to time.
But what about the “expected unexpected”? For example, here in New Hampshire, a wintry mix of snow, sleet and rain is predicted just about every day this week. Some days are expected to be messier than others … but we could have some wintry difficulties ahead, with all of their attendant tie challenges.
Or maybe not. Last week on the strength of the weather predictions many area superintendents closed the schools … only to have the storm wait until pretty much the end of the school day to arrive. The kids were happy, but a school day was lost.
So, what’s the best way to respond when disruption can be anticipated, but isn’t a sure thing? Here are 3 tips to consider:
- First and foremost, put yourself into the mindset of acceptance. This doesn’t mean being passive. What it does mean is letting in the fact that “this could happen” and building from there. If you are in denial about the blizzard, it’s bound to disrupt things even more. Acceptance provides a base for moving forward as creatively and productively as possible. It also helps address the anxiety that the “expected unexpected” can produce.
- Second, scan your upcoming schedule, prioritize, and develop contingency plans. Having accepted the possibilities ahead, you’ll be able to bring your most creative and proactive self to this challenge. You may find that you make unexpected, helpful discoveries as you do this. Maybe there are ways that you can streamline your schedule … even if the “expected unexpected” doesn’t materialize!
- That being said, remember the NH school superintendents, and gather as much information as you can before making decisions. Strive to be agile and grounded in calm acceptance so that you don’t over-react to the possibilities. This can be a big challenge, though. So also be sure to forgive yourself if and when you guess wrong!
Being prepared for the expected unexpected is a challenge that we face with some frequency in our lives. How do you handle it? Drop me a line – I’d love to hear your thoughts and experiences!
What if you could find another hour every day? You can! You are invited to sign up for your FREE Finding Time Success Kit. It puts 3 key tools for your time success right into your hands! Grab it and see how you can recharge your energy, reduce overwhelm and frustration, and come to learn that 24 hours really ARE enough!
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Find Time to Expect the Unexpected-5 Tips
Posted on January 12, 2010 by Paula, under Time and Energy, Transitions and Time.
Our world is filled with change … all the time! Finding time to deal with the sudden changes that can present themselves to us is a difficult challenge that is compounded by the fact that, by definition, we are unprepared for them!
What can you do to prepare? You can establish a base so that when the unexpected occurs, you have a toolbox of skills and responses to draw from.
Here are 5 tips to help you keep sudden change from totally disrupting your time choices, your ability to take care of yourself … and manage your life.
1. Remember that your time choices, and the values that drive them, are yours. Even when your established priorities need to take a back seat to the urgent choices you may need to make, remember that the time choices remain yours. The more you can own your choices, the less you will feel victimized by your situation.
2. Establish a habit of defining options. Ensure your resiliency by defining options for each of your daily priorities. This gives you a wider repertoire of priorities, should you to flex in light of something unexpected.
3. Explore adjustments in your personal and work schedules that you can make quickly if you need to. Flexibility is a key skill here! Sometimes our daily list of activities and priorities becomes inflexible. This can be disastrous if sudden change occurs. You can introduce flexibility into your daily habits around time by changing your routines and assessing your reactions to these changes. It’s really helpful and important to pay attention to this when you aren’t being forced into it by circumstances!
4. Re-examine your personal boundaries. In times of sudden change, your usual personal boundaries may have to flex. Take a few minutes and reflect on those you’ve established. Write them down. This keeps them from becoming unconscious or rigid. By remaining aware of your usual boundaries, you are more easily able to adjust them when sudden change occurs.
5. Be willing to tell others about any sudden changes that affect your usual time choices. When sudden change occurs, don’t bottle it up inside. Family, friends and coworkers only can understand, accept, and support you if you alert them with at least a brief description of any sudden change.
Have you needed to deal with sudden change in your life? What have you found helpful? Challenging? I’d love to hear!
What if you could find another hour every day? You can! You are invited to sign up for the Finding Time Success Kit starting with The New Finding Time Personal Boundary Template. It’s FREE, and when you sign up you will also receive (if you don’t already) my FREE, weekly Finding Time Tips and my FREE, monthly Award-Winning Finding Time E-zine … key tools for your time success!
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Find Time for Time Finder Favorites as We Welcome October!
Posted on October 1, 2009 by Paula, under Time After Time.
Finding time to welcome a new month is always enhanced by finding time to reflect on what’s come before. So, as we embark on this brand new month, let’s look back and see what posts were especially popular among Time Finder readers in September!
Topping the list was Finding Time by Being Flexible-3 Timely Tips! – a post that explores ways to stick to your priorities by being flexible and adjusting – even when you’ve run into a glitch or a bump in the road. Have you ever over-slept, woken with a start, and then scrambled to try to catch up? This may be the post for you!
Next in this collection of favorites was a post for our times: Find Time to Find Your Financial Baseline and Take Charge. This one has been a top vote-getter for several months now.
Dealing with procrastination is a perennial challenge – and readers validated this by their great interest in the post Find Time to Address Procrastination Using a Template! This popular post was a part of our new feature – when we highlight a Finding Time E-zine article on the blog. Judging from your response, this is a timely idea!
Finding Time for Your Priorities When Sudden Change Hits! was another Finding Time E-zine article that ranked high on your list!
Finally, rounding out the top posts are two that came in neck and neck!
- The first, from our Cyber Monday series, was about Scribd – and interesting on-line document-sharing venue. Read about it at : Find Time with Scribd on Cyber Monday!
- The second was a post about the power of The Attitude of Gratitude. Find Time to Renew Yourself With the Attitude of Gratitude looks at how to do this and the ways that “exploring the attitude of gratitude is one of the most powerful and transformative time choices that you can make for yourself.”
I invite you to take a moment to visit (or revisit) these posts – and then drop me a line – I’d love to hear your thoughts and responses!
What if you could find another hour every day? You can! You are invited to sign up and download The New Finding Time Boundary Template. It’s FREE, and when you sign up you will also receive (if you don’t already) my FREE, weekly Finding Time Tips and my FREE, monthly Award-Winning Finding Time E-zine!
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Finding Time to Transition Into Fall: Mind, Body and Spirit!
Posted on September 8, 2009 by Paula, under Transitions and Time.
Finding time to manage seasonal transitions is a task that is .. well … seasonal! I don’t know about you, but this weekend we had some chilly New Hampshire moments when my thoughts definitely turned to preparing for the transition into fall. It may be premature to actually begin the work of transitioning, but this is a fine time to start thinking about it!
Unlike sudden changes, transitions are planful processes. What this means, among other things, is that the power is in our hands to fashion our transitions in whatever manner we like. Transitions can offer wonderful opportunities to reflect on and let go of what is past and prepare for what lies ahead. Indeed, many of our holidays are founded in seasonal transitions, and the roots of many religious rituals can be traced to seasonal observances.
I like to approach my planned transitions on three levels. I think of them as corresponding to the mind, the body, and the spirit.
- Mind: This is the engine of my transition planning. I pull out my templates from the previous year’s transition into fall, review the tasks involved, and set aside the time to attend to each. I keep track of what works and what doesn’t, and record this on my templates for the following year.
- Body: These are the aspects of my transition that have to do with my practical, concrete, everyday life. I tend to tasks like putting away summer clothes (sorting and de-cluttering as I go). I pull out fall and winter clothes and put my gardens to bed for the winter, again, culling and organizing as I complete each task. I am preparing my physical world for the coming seasonal changes.
- Spirit: These physical changes are accompanied by reflection, gratitude, anticipation, and letting go at each step of the process. I love the transitional tasks of looking back on what has been, and thinking about what is to come. Pausing to reflect while managing transitional times always deepens and enriches the experience – often in ways that you could never imagine or predict.
Are you starting to think about the transition into fall? Do you have templates from last year? How are you feeling about this change of season? Please drop me a line, I’d love to hear!
What if you could find another hour every day? You can! You are invited to sign up and download The New Finding Time Boundary Template. It’s FREE, and when you sign up you will also receive (if you don’t already) my FREE, weekly Finding Time Tips and my FREE, monthly Award-Winning Finding Time E-zine!
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The Time Finder’s Weekly Twitter Update for 2009-09-06
Posted on September 6, 2009 by Paula, under Time After Time.
- Don't let your projects get 'mugged' in power struggles with rival plans. #
- To avoid 'stealing' time from yr work, schedule pleasurable breaks to let yr imagination travel. Then return yr full focus to yr project. #
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- What a beautiful Sunday here in NH. May you be as present as you can to each of your moments today! #
- Happy Sunday – I hope your holiday weekend (here in the States) is everything you hoped it to be! #
- Happy Saturday – what a beautiful September day. Hope you find time to enjoy it! #
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- A deadline is negative inspiration. Still, it's better than no inspiration at all. ~Rita Mae Brown #
- Passion, though a bad regulator, is a powerful spring. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson #
- You can't depend on your eyes when your imagination is out of focus. ~Mark Twain #
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- I saw the angel in the marble and carved until I set him free. ~Michelangelo #
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- Never mistake motion for action. ~Ernest Hemingway #
- Find time, focus and flow with the Pomodoro Technique! http://is.gd/2q5SV #
- Find time to breathe and let go … http://is.gd/2EHDg #
- To lead the people, walk behind them. ~Lao-Tzu #
- If you chase two rabbits, you will not catch either one. ~Russian Proverb #
- A penny will hide the biggest star in the Universe if you hold it close enough to your eye. ~Samuel Grafton #
- Follow your passion, and success will follow you. ~Arthur Buddhold #
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- If at first you don't succeed, do it like your mother told you. ~Author Unknown #
- Genius is nothing but a great aptitude for patience. ~George-Louis de Buffon #
- The obstacle is the path. ~Zen Proverb #
- Fear is a darkroom where negatives develop. ~Usman B. Asif #
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- An optimist is the human personification of spring. ~Susan J. Bissonette #
- Genuinely appreciating the full power of your time choices requires and builds grit. Why? http://is.gd/1K8Cz #
- He who trims himself to suit everyone will soon whittle himself away. ~Raymond Hull #
- Finding time to overcome perfectionism in your life can free you up to be your most creative and productive self. http://snipr.com/o26be #
- Inside my empty bottle I was constructing a lighthouse while all the others were making ships. ~Charles Simic #
- He has not learned the lesson of life who does not every day surmount a fear. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson #
- A leader leads by example not by Force. ~Sun Tzu #
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- The foot feels the foot when it feels the ground. ~Buddha #
- If everyone is moving forward together, then success takes care of itself. ~Henry Ford #
- Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful,committed people can change the world. Indeed,it is the only thing that ever has.Margaret Meade #
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- Contrary 2 popular belief, there certainly is an "I" in "team."It is the same "I" that appears 3 times in "responsibility." Amber Harding #
- It is amazing how much you can accomplish when it doesn't matter who gets the credit. ~Author Unknown #
- What are your plans for today? Is pausing to reflect on your agenda? Give yourself some time for stillness – see how it refreshes you! #
- Sticks in a bundle are unbreakable. ~Kenyan Proverb #
- Here's to small steps. http://budurl.com/smallsteps Take one small step, RIGHT NOW, to move one of your goals forward! #
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- Cooperation is the thorough conviction that nobody can get there unless everybody gets there. ~Virginia Burden #
- The nice thing about teamwork is that you always have others on your side. ~Margaret Carty #
- No one can whistle a symphony. It takes a whole orchestra to play it. ~H.E. Luccock #
- Teamwork divides the task and multiplies the success. ~Author Unknown #
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- I suppose that leadership at one time meant muscle; but today it means getting along with people. ~Indira Gandhi #
- Find time to breathe and let go … http://is.gd/2EHDg #
- One measure of leadership is the caliber of people who choose to follow you. ~Dennis A. Peer #
- Leaders don't create followers, they create more leaders. ~Tom Peters #
- Nothing so conclusively proves a [person's] ability to lead others as what [s]he does from day to day to lead [her]self. Thomas J. Watson #
- Example is not the main thing in influencing others. It is the only thing. ~Albert Schweitzer #
- You don't have to hold a position in order to be a leader. ~Anthony J. D'Angelo, The College Blue Book #
- You can't lead anyone else further than you have gone yourself. ~Gene Mauch #
- RT @SheilaAtwood “Those who need to learn most teach best.” — Richard Bach, in Illusions: the Adventures of a Reluctant Messiah #
- Leadership is action, not position. ~Donald H. McGannon #
- A leader leads by example, whether he [or she!] intends to or not. ~Author Unknown #
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- He who fears something gives it power over him. ~Moorish Proverb #
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Finding Time for Your Priorities When Sudden Change Hits!
Posted on September 4, 2009 by Paula, under Finding Time E-zine Articles.
From time to time, here at The Time Finder, we are going to share adapted articles from our Finding Time E-zine. They offer great time management tips and ideas – and reading them, you’ll get a taste of what our free, monthly e-zine is all about. Hope you enjoy our first offering!
Finding time to set time priorities is an important time choice. Setting your priorities wisely gives you the power to find time for what’s most important.
But what happens when an unexpected event sends your life into a spin? How can you prepare yourself for sudden change, so that you can steer your life back on track?
Most of us feel comfortable when we know what is most important for us to do and why we are doing it. But without warning, our plans, priorities and patterns, can be sent flying in all directions. This is what sudden change does. It shakes up everything. Suddenly these choices are no longer relevant or realistic.
For example, let’s look at a most frightening sudden change. Serious illness strikes someone close to you, and you find yourself in the middle of a terrible whirlwind. Imagine how this affects your daily life and tasks. Sudden change stirs up emotions that cloud your ability to think clearly and make wise time choices. All your priorities and established tasks now must take a back seat to the immediate, unanticipated, often unknown choices you must make about how to use your time.
Life’s unpredictability can blind-side us if we don’t expect the unexpected. To choose wisely we need to learn to plan for the possibility of sudden change.
As a first step, consider two sudden changes. Sudden illness could be one, and the loss of a job could be the second. In a general way, explore some adjustments you could make quickly if life demanded it. Use techniques like visualization, staying fully aware of your personal boundaries and recognizing basic tasks that need to get done every day.
This kind of contemplation helps to clearly re-establish your personal relationship with time. From that clarity, you can create effective options for managing your time choices when faced with sudden change.
After all, your relationship with time is not just about becoming more efficient by creating short-term lists and long-term planning. It is about knowing yourself, your priorities, and your core values.
Start strengthening your relationship with time today. Equip yourself with the basic resources you need to navigate sudden change with clarity and flexibility. Try setting aside some time to practice this skill. I’d love to hear how it goes!
What if you could find another hour every day? You can! You are invited to sign up and download The New Finding Time Boundary Template. It’s FREE, and when you sign up you will also receive (if you don’t already) my FREE, weekly Finding Time Tips and my FREE, monthly Award-Winning Finding Time E-zine!
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Find Time for Feelings (And Yes … Start with the Most Challenging Ones)!
Posted on September 3, 2009 by Paula, under Time and Energy.
Finding time involves managing your energy, and one of the biggest energy drains around is the tendency to shy away from difficult or challenging feelings.
Avoidance eats up time and saps energy … and it keeps you stuck right where you are.
I recently wrote about this in an article titled Time Management Tips – Your Golden Key to Initiate Effective Changes in Tough Times at ezinearticles.com.
Challenging feelings may arise when sudden change disrupts the routines and patterns that you have built in your life. The terrain is suddenly unfamiliar and you may feel lost and disoriented. It is a natural human tendency to want to avoid these feelings. However, as Carl Jung states:
Not around, but through.
Once you take in the fact that it is an illusion (and a debilitating one at that) to think that you can get “around” a difficult feeling … you are more than halfway there! The next step is to find time in your day to let your feelings out and explore them, either yourself or with a friend, coach, or mentor.
You will be surprised at the possibilities that open themselves to you as you do this!
Initially, you may have no idea how your own time choices must change to become more effective. But as you relax, your alertness increases. By accepting that even profound challenges and losses are a part of life, you mobilize yourself to analyze your time choices, so you can align them with your values as well as the situation you now face.
As you open to your feelings – especially those challenging ones that your first impulse is to avoid – here are some affirmations that you can carry with you. They will help remind you of the core importance of this exploration that you are undertaking – AND they will strengthen and encourage you along the way!
- Discomfort serves as an essential catalyst.
- All change requires moving beyond one’s comfort zone.
- Compassion and responsibility go hand in hand.
- Gratitude can help broaden your perspective.
- Your promise lies in growth.
How do you find time for your feelings? Try setting aside some time, a few times a week, to begin practicing this skill. I’d love to hear how it goes!
What if you could find another hour every day? You can! You are invited to sign up and download The New Finding Time Boundary Template. It’s FREE, and when you sign up you will also receive (if you don’t already) my FREE, weekly Finding Time Tips and my FREE, monthly Award-Winning Finding Time E-zine!
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Find Time for Acceptance
Posted on July 29, 2009 by Paula, under Time and Energy.
Finding time to accept what you cannot change is one of the fundamental principles of 12-Step Programs, and a key ingredient in making wise and well-grounded time choices.
Many know this concept through its expression in what has come to be known as The Serenity Prayer:
God grant me the serenity
To accept the things I cannot change;
Courage to change the things I can;
And wisdom to know the difference.
Acceptance is important in a wide range of situations. Maybe you are responding to a sudden (and unwelcome) change as we did recently at Finding Time, LLC. Or perhaps you are dealing with a more everyday annoyance like a string of rainy days while you are on vacation.
In either case, accepting what is provides the base for moving ahead in your life with full access to your energy and creativity. Cindy Loughran, in her Blog New Leaf Touchstone has written with insight and humor about people’s struggles with the current weather situation here in New England.
What do you do on a rainy day while on vacation? Do you suffer and complain or do you make the best of it and create your own good time?
Like many things in life, we can’t control the weather but we have complete control over how we deal with it!
Check out Cindy’s post titled “… accept the things I cannot change …” where she reflects on the profound ways that the energy we bring to a situation affects how we see it and what it becomes for us.
Acceptance moves us powerfully from fighting against reality toward freeing up our creativity and energy for adapting to and exploring new terrain. This was certainly the case with our changes at Finding Time, LLC – where our choices helped us transform a scary crisis into new opportunities!
Of course there is often plenty of work involved, too, in transforming crises into opportunities. Acceptance reframes the entire situation so that the work can become proactive, expansive, and creative. What a huge difference that makes!
Do you sometimes struggle with acceptance? Are there particular areas where you find this challenging? What gets in the way? Please drop me a line – I’d love to hear about your experiences!
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