The way you use your time is the way you live your life.
If you’ve ever meditated, you’ve had a good window on the droning and subliminally distracting self-talk that you engage in all the time.
For each of us the voices differ, influenced by our histories, the people in our lives, the messages they gave us from day one, and the way that we integrated those messages. The common thread is that what had been said by someone else gradually becomes what we say to ourselves.
A recent study published in the journal of the American Psychological Association highlights this very point. Titled “Getting Excited Helps with Performance Anxiety More Than Trying to Calm Down, Study Finds” the study zeroes in on the power of self-talk.
In one experiment, 140 participants (63 men and 77 women) were told to prepare a persuasive public speech on why they would be good work partners. To increase anxiety, a researcher videotaped the speeches and said they would be judged by a committee. Before delivering the speech, participants were instructed to say “I am excited” or “I am calm.” The subjects who said they were excited gave longer speeches and were more persuasive, competent and relaxed than those who said they were calm, according to ratings by independent evaluators.
The good news here about your self-talk is that the messages you give yourself are entirely up to you. Once you become conscious of them, you can change them.
Positive self-talk gives your moments an entirely different frame, as illustrated by the study above. When you tell yourself that you are excited (as opposed to anxious) that affects how you view the road ahead, which in turn affects how you experience it.
The energy you bring, the choices you make, even the things you notice … all of these things are affected by the self-talk that you give yourself. So why not make conscious decisions to engage in the kind of self-talk that nourishes and energizes?
Here’s to your time success!
And if you’re interested in exploring your own personal brand of self-talk more deeply (and making positive changes), my Exercise and Guide Book, “‘These Critical Voices Are Driving Me Crazy!” might be just the ticket!
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