The Time Finder with Paula Eder

The way you use your time is the way you live your life.

Focus Online: What’s Your Sweet Spot for Finding Time?

Posted on April 30, 2013 by , under Time Boundaries, Time Management Skills.

Focus OnlineFocus is a (if not the) key to your productivity; and finding focus when you are working online can be a huge challenge!

The online world is teeming with information, interactions, and fascinating distractions.  Indeed, many believe that our attention spans are  (more…)

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Time Boundaries and Time Balance: Just Ask Paula!

Posted on October 24, 2012 by , under Ask Paula.

BoundariesBoundaries are essential tools for successfully navigating through your days and getting things done.  Today I’d like to share a question from a reader.

It’s a question about boundaries and it offers an opportunity to explore how your time boundaries help you  (more…)

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Time Boundaries 101: Password Protect Your Precious Time!

Posted on October 8, 2012 by , under Time and Technology, Time Boundaries.

time boundariesTime boundaries are key to your productivity and your time success, whether you are a student, an entrepreneur, a small business owner, or anyone with a to-do list that is longer than the hours in your day!

In our always-connected, information-saturated world, time boundaries can be  (more…)

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Find Time to Keep Yourself Focused and on Track with This One Simple Tip!

Posted on May 21, 2012 by , under Time and Technology.

Finding time to stay on track, especially if much of your work must be done on-line, can be a very big challenge.  There are so many potential distractions that can pull you away from your planned work.  Do you notice that you ‘lose time’ when you’re at your computer?  It’s a very common problem and may well be your biggest time drain.

But don’t worry!  Here’s one simple and sure-fire way to keep yourself focused and on track when you sit down to work at your computer:  Use a timer!

There really is no better way to create time boundaries for yourself so that you can stay focused and on-track.  There are lots of different kinds of timers that you can use – some on-line and some of the egg-timer variety.  Both can work just fine; I personally prefer the egg-timer type, as I can use it to stay on track, not just at the computer, but when I’m doing other things around the house and farm.

For accomplishing tasks that require a lot of focus, I like to set the timer for no more than 20 or 30-minutes.  Then, when it goes off, I get up and walk around a little bit, or do some stretches.  It’s important to give yourself frequent “movement breaks” when your work is primarily sedentary.  This refreshes your body and your mind, enabling you to return to your task with renewed energy.

I think you’ll find that your ability to stay on track is greatly enhanced when you work in shorter increments and give yourself clear boundaries.  You’ll begin to establish a rhythm that both your body and your mind will appreciate.

Not only that, but the more you know that YOU are in charge of your time, the more you can stay focused and on track.  As you use your timer to create and maintain your time boundaries you build self-trust around time management and time choices.  This makes it easier to let go of that tempting website that you want to explore ‘right now’ – because you know that you will find time to return to it later.  Clear time boundaries make that possible for you!

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Let’s explore time together …

Disclosure of Material Connection: I have no material connection with any of the resources mentioned here, and have not received any compensation for writing this content.

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Find Time to Create Quiet-Some Timely Thoughts

Posted on December 26, 2011 by , under Time Boundaries.

Finding time to take a breath can be one of the most challenging undertakings in your daily life.  And yet, it is also one of the most rejuvenating gifts you can ever give yourself.  So, the question is, how can you create quiet for yourself in your daily life?

In thinking about this. let’s start by reflecting on the recent holidays.  Did you notice that there were pockets of quiet?  I know that I did.  The volume of e-mail was way down, the phone rang less, Facebook was quieter, and it seemed like many people were ‘unplugged’ and living their moments the old fashioned way.

So, how did that feel to you?  Would you like to be able to create quiet like that for yourself more often?

I know that I felt refreshed, energized, and appreciative of the  break.  It served as a reminder that I can create quiet in my life any time that I want to.  All it requires is that I set and maintain some boundaries for myself.

Time boundaries may be something that you need to communicate to others (i.e. when you need to unplug or shut the door and have time to focus) or they may be something that you need to assert internally (i.e. when you limit your on-line time or create and follow through on an exercise regimen).

Either way, time boundaries can help you create quiet in your life – or create space for whatever your heart desires.  As far as gifts go, time boundaries may be just about the best thing going.

So consider giving yourself this present … for your present … as you embark on a New Year!

Ready to get started? Here’s a great way to explore avenues to increasing your time skills and heart-based power – whether it’s in your business, or your personal life.  I am so pleased to be able to offer my expertise and support as The Official SelfGrowth.com Guide to “Time Management”.

You can visit by clicking the link, and when you do you’ll find lots of time management articles by experts in the field, along with a vibrant and welcoming on-line community. Stop by my Expert Page and leave a comment or question … or just say hello.  There are lots of ways to connect … I’d love to get started!

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Find Time to Avoid Productivity Traps and Keep Moving!

Posted on April 20, 2011 by , under Time Management Skills.

Finding time to get things done – isn’t that what we’re all striving for? It’s a goal we all share – and I am guessing that most of us share some productivity traps, too. Let’s explore a couple that may feel familiar to you today.

One of the biggest traps to avoid, when it comes to time and productivity, is the idea that working faster is going to “get you there” faster. In fact, quite the opposite is true, most of the time.

It’s counter-intuitive, I know. The more stressed and overwhelmed you feel, the more you are inclined to rush. But when you start rushing, you are going to miss steps, make mistakes, and, ultimately, lose precious time. In addition, you may undermine trust or suffer other, significant fallout as a result of giving into this impulse to go faster.

The other major productivity pitfall has to do with focus … or, more precisely, losing focus. Picture us all, in our information-saturated era. We have our blackberries and iPads and laptops. Scarcely a moment passes that we’re not doing something productive. Right?

But here’s the thing – staying on track as you navigate through all of the websites and news items and tweets and videos is challenging. Sometimes I’m sure it can feel a little like trying to walk your 5-year-old past the ice cream store on a hot summer day.

Keep in mind that getting sidetracked and losing focus doesn’t stop time. Distraction leads to inaction. And when your productivity grinds to a halt … that clock on your wall keeps ticking away.

Finding time to avoid the kinds of traps that sap your energy, focus and productivity often involves the opposite of what your impulse might be.  Don’t let panic take the lead.  It just dilutes and scatters your energy.  Instead, take a deep breath, and:

  • When you feel pressed to go fast, slow down.
  • When you feel like everything is clamoring for your attention NOW, assert your boundaries, say no, and refocus on your task. The rest will wait.

You will be amazed at how much of a difference these two simple, and seemingly counter-intuitive, strategies can make.

Stay tuned … next week I’ll be sharing 5 actionable tips for avoiding productivity pitfalls and keeping yourself on your most efficient and effective track ever.  You can do it!  There’s a different way to be in your day … and I’d like to share it with you.

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Let’s explore time together …

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Finding Time Can Mean Saying No, Even When You’re Scared to Death!

Posted on April 12, 2011 by , under Time Boundaries.

Finding time might begin for you, today, with finding the courage to say No. Maybe your schedule and To Do List are jam-packed, and adding one more thing will throw everything else out-of-whack.  But saying no to a request (or a demand) for your time can present challenges.

Sometimes, refusing to engage in low-priority activities and commitments is quite easy, isn’t it? You’re direct and you set limits clearly. Furthermore, the results speak for themselves. You exercise positive control over much of your day.

But every so often, the refusal may get caught in your throat. Your chest tightens, and… you’re just scared to death to say no.

How do you handle situations like this when they arise in your life now? Try a quick quiz to broaden your understanding of how you approach stressful demands. Note how often you resort to each of these actions, using “0″ for “never” and 5 for “always”:

“When I feel scared to death to say No, I:

_____  Push my misgivings aside and charge blindly ahead.

_____  Mutter about how impossible the other person is.

_____  Criticize myself for feeling so apprehensive.

_____  Hint that my refusal is the other person’s fault.

_____  Postpone the big talk until the ideal time, like never.”

If your score is 0-5, saying No isn’t much of a problem for you – unless you’ve figured out yet another self-defeating stratagem to avoid the issue!

But what if your score is higher? In that case, your avoidance of saying No probably hurts you even more than you comprehend. Anger simmers, and relationships and self-esteem become more fragile. Over time, anxieties compound. Paralyzing fear takes quite a toll.

There’s another way to handle this impasse. To do so, you must break outworn promises you made to yourself long ago!

Today we’ll explore 3 powerful questions to help break the chokehold that fear has on your assertiveness.  Ask them as often as you need to. And let the answers bubble up, as you listen to each response. They will be brimming with useful information for you!

Ask yourself:

1. What is the origin of my fear of saying No? Compassionately see the younger you, who had fewer options than you do now. Think how much stronger and more autonomous you are today! Is there any friendly message that you can offer to the part of you that is stuck in the past?

2. What made silence my safest choice  back then? Perhaps your course of action really was the best option you had at the time. At any rate, it can be helpful to understand how your current difficulty is based in approaches that once made a lot of sense to you. You are then much less likely to judge yourself as weak. Also, consider how circumstances have changed.

3. How does this fear of saying No trap me now? Seeing all the ways your old promises to yourself hold you back helps you replace your outworn approach with a more appropriate one.

Does this help as you strive to set meaningful time boundaries and find more time?  Stay tuned … in an upcoming post, we’ll explore 3 simple strategies for putting these fears behind you!

Are you inspired to find time and increase your effectiveness, efficiency and enjoyment?

Then, I invite you to explore Secrets of Heart-Based Time Management – my chapter in the book I co-authored – Stepping Stones to Success!  In it I share my proven system for harnessing the power of your mind, your body and your spirit to help you explore your patterns, clarify your values, identify and prioritize your goals … and create your path for achieving them.

The in depth interviews contained in this book provide practical and heart-based ideas to get you moving as you embrace yourself and your own uniqueness!

You can give yourself the gift of this wonderful resource today, and get started on your journey toward success, Stepping Stone by Stepping Stone … just click this link to get the details!

What if you could find another hour every day? You can! You are invited to sign up for your FREE Finding Time Success Kit. It puts 3 key tools for your time success right into your hands! Grab it and see how you can recharge your energy, reduce overwhelm and frustration, and come to learn that 24 hours really ARE enough!

Let’s explore time together …

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Find Time for March’s Time Finder Favorites

Posted on April 5, 2011 by , under Time After Time.

Finding time to look back at March’s Time Finder Favorites is something we want to be sure to do before another April day passes by!

And speaking of April days, it’s just the 5th and so far we’ve had two small, April snowstorms here in NH!  It brings to mind a passage from a Robert Frost poem that I’ve always loved.  The poem is “Two Tramps in Mud Time” and the passage is:

The sun was warm but the wind was chill.
You know how it is with an April day
When the sun is out and the wind is still,
You’re one month on in the middle of May.
But if you so much as dare to speak,
A cloud comes over the sunlit arch,
A wind comes off a frozen peak,
And you’re two months back in the middle of March.

So, since we’ve been visiting the month of March weather-wise, let’s take a look at our most popular posts from that month, too!

The impact of the alterations that Google made in their search algorithms was on many people’s minds in March … and quite a few of you were inclined to Find Time to Learn About the Recent Google Algorithm Changes and Their Impact on You! Did you notice anything different about your traffic or your search results?

Second on the list (and a very close second, I might add) was Find Time to Vanquish Procrastination by Pulling the Plug on Pressure Tactics.  When you put undue pressure on yourself, you just make it harder to perform.  I love this analogy …

If someone asked you to walk along a narrow, 12-inch path in a garden, you’d start right away, and easily accomplish the feat. But what if that same person were angrily or urgently shouting at you to walk a 12-inch plank across a raging river? The width of your path is the same, but the heightened stakes in the latter case might well keep you frozen on the bank. (I know it would me!)

Find Time to Keep Up with Your Facebook Fan Page Using Hyper Alerts! offered a handy tool for keeping up with key on-line connections.

And you also cooked up some interesting concoctions by deciding to Find Time to Spice It Up Considerably With Spicynodes Software.

Finally, many of you revisited Time Boundaries with a quick refresher in the power of saying no (and how it enables your YES)!  The post is titled Find Time to Move Ahead by Knowing You Can Stop When You Need To! and one of the things it explores is the connection between weak time boundaries and procrastination.

Interestingly, the fear of not being able to proactively say no and establish meaningful time boundaries can also lead to the more passive “No” that is procrastination. Indeed, putting off an important project may reflect a fear that succeeding on time will create a whole new set of problems for you.

In March I was also very pleased to be interviewed by a reporter from our local newspaper, the Monadnock Ledger-Transcript!  The article is titled “In a Busy World, She’s Making Every Minute Count.” Enjoy!

Did you have a favorite post that we’ve missed?  Are there subjects you’d like to see us explore here?  Time questions you’d like to pose?  Drop me a line – I’d love to hear from you!

And as we move into a new month, are you inspired to find time and increase your effectiveness, efficiency and enjoyment?

Then, I invite you to explore Secrets of Heart-Based Time Management – my chapter in the book I co-authored – Stepping Stones to Success!  In it I share my proven system for harnessing the power of your mind, your body and your spirit to help you explore your patterns, clarify your values, identify and prioritize your goals … and create your path for achieving them.

The in depth interviews contained in this book provide practical and heart-based ideas to get you moving as you embrace yourself and your own uniqueness!

You can give yourself the gift of this wonderful resource today, and get started on your journey toward success, Stepping Stone by Stepping Stone … just click this link to get the details!

What if you could find another hour every day? You can! You are invited to sign up for your FREE Finding Time Success Kit. It puts 3 key tools for your time success right into your hands! Grab it and see how you can recharge your energy, reduce overwhelm and frustration, and come to learn that 24 hours really ARE enough!

Let’s explore time together …

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Find Time to Move Ahead by Knowing You Can Stop When You Need To!

Posted on March 24, 2011 by , under Time Boundaries, Time Choices.

Finding time and mastering time challenges can bring you a marvelous feeling of relief!  Sometimes, it’s like applying the brakes to a car rushing downhill. Other times, it’s finally revving up the engine and taking off.  You can feel comfortable, and even excited, about moving ahead because now you know you’ll be able to stop when you need to.

The Power of No

Perhaps you’ve heard the expression, “You can’t say yes unless you can say no.” Clearing the space to affirmatively move ahead on a goal is often a matter of eliminating something else, at least for the moment (something you can explore further by checking out Tuesday’s post).

Interestingly, the fear of not being able to proactively say no and establish meaningful time boundaries can also lead to the more passive “No” that is procrastination.  Indeed, putting off an important project may reflect a fear that succeeding on time will create a whole new set of problems for you.

These patterns often begin in early childhood. Maybe you once feared the consequences of saying “No” to your parents’ demands. Or maybe you were afraid that success would bring increased expectations and challenges. Dragging your heels was an effective stalling tactic back then. But now, procrastination has turned into a cage that holds you captive.

Now is Different!

It’s so important to remind ourselves of this fact … and fully experience the good news this can be. Try taking a moment, right now, to give yourself a friendly, adult affirmation.  You now possess the power to select exactly how to use your growing competence. You can match new skills with a new level of selectivity, so that you never have to fear that success will rope you into a life you don’t want. This assertive skill helps you live by your deepest beliefs!

How about taking this opportunity to expand your life by providing new support to your values?  Are you inspired to find time and increase your effectiveness? I invite you to explore Secrets of Heart-Based Time Management – my chapter in the book I co-authored – Stepping Stones to Success!

I am so excited to share my proven system for harnessing the power of your mind, your body and your spirit to help you explore your patterns, clarify your values, identify and prioritize your goals … and create your path for achieving them. The in depth interviews contained in this book provide practical and heart-based ideas to get you moving as you embrace yourself and your own uniqueness!

You can give yourself the gift of this wonderful resource today, and get started on your journey toward success, Stepping Stone by Stepping Stone … just click this link to get the details!

And here’s some other exciting Finding Time news! I was so pleased, recently, to be interviewed by a reporter from our local newspaper, the Monadnock Ledger-Transcript! The article, by Jonathan Gourlay, is titled “In a Busy World, She’s Making Every Minute Count.” Enjoy!

What if you could find another hour every day? You can! You are invited to sign up for your FREE Finding Time Success Kit. It puts 3 key tools for your time success right into your hands! Grab it and see how you can recharge your energy, reduce overwhelm and frustration, and come to learn that 24 hours really ARE enough!

Let’s explore time together …

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Finding Time: Can Minimalism Get You to a Place Where 24-Hours Really Are Enough?

Posted on March 22, 2011 by , under Time and Values, Time Boundaries, Time Choices.

Finding time may be the central quest of our often hectic and harried 21st century world. Getting more, spending more, having more, doing more, connecting more … it all eats up time, not to mention money.  And when you’re finished with another day filled with “stuff” how do you feel?  Full?  Empty?  Someplace in-between?

I recently read a very interesting post by Penelope Trunk (check out her blog – it’s listed in our sidebar) titled “Beware of Leo Babauta’s minimalist lifestyle” in which she good-humoredly takes the zen habits guru to task for his move to San Francisco … and what it might say about what minimalism is (and is not), both for Leo and for the rest of us.

I was interested to see that minimalism is more or less defined in this post in the negative.  “So, here’s what I do not have …”  And topping the list of non-possessions is “Anything that is not functional …”  She also notes “I think a minimalist life is a product of many small decisions rather than a single big one.”

So, taking a step back, I am especially intrigued by the question of what is left after one has made a choice that could be considered minimalist.  What is the goal of your choice?  What lies behind it?  Making your choice – whatever it is – leaves you, not just with what you don’t have but with something new that you have. What is that new thing that you have?

I thought it would be interesting to look at these three assertions from the perspective of time … finding time, to be precise.  What can I find, when I apply concepts of minimalism to my time?

  • “So, here’s what I do not have …” Rather than coming at this from the vantage point of scarcity or deprivation, I like to think of minimalism as about creating time boundaries and, within them, creating the time you need for whatever you choose.  Time is, by definition, finite.  There are 24 hours – no more and no less – within each day.  Taking in this fact is half the battle, when it comes to time management.  Then, it’s a matter of deciding what to say No to … in order to be able to say a meaningful Yes to something else.  So, in thinking about minimalism, when it comes to time, it’s important to be able to say No … but the fundamental focus is on my Yes.  I would reframe Penelope’s statement to say, “So, here’s what I am making time for …”

  • “Anything that is not functional …” This is a useful way to approach minimalism, when it comes to time or to “stuff.”  My only caution here would be to make sure that your self-critical or self-sabotaging voices don’t step in and try to “help” you decide what is functional.  Remember that things like self-care and plain old fun can be very helpful.  This is about YOU and what helps you to function at your peak.  It can be tricky to get clear about that … but you can do it.  Listen and learn!

  • “I think a minimalist life is a product of many small decisions rather than a single big one.” I couldn’t agree more!  Our individual relationships with time (and with ourselves, by extension) are defined, not by some overarching credo or set of beliefs, but by the everyday choices that we make as we negotiate the details of our lives.  It’s a process … and one that we are intimately engaged with for our entire lifetimes.  After all … the way you use your time is the way you live your life!

Are you inspired to find time and increase your effectiveness? I invite you to explore Secrets of Heart-Based Time Management – my chapter in the book I co-authored – Stepping Stones to Success!

I am so excited to share my proven system for harnessing the power of your mind, your body and your spirit to help you explore your patterns, clarify your values, identify and prioritize your goals … and create your path for achieving them.  You can give yourself the gift of this wonderful resource today, and get started on your journey toward success, Stepping Stone by Stepping Stone … just click this link to get the details!

What if you could find another hour every day? You can! You are invited to sign up for your FREE Finding Time Success Kit. It puts 3 key tools for your time success right into your hands! Grab it and see how you can recharge your energy, reduce overwhelm and frustration, and come to learn that 24 hours really ARE enough!

Let’s explore time together …

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Find Time to Short Circuit Self Sabotage and Make Every Minute Count

Posted on March 21, 2011 by , under Time Boundaries, Time Choices.

Do you ever find yourself getting ready for bed and suddenly feeling like your busy day was a blur and you’re not sure where it went?  Or maybe you have a To Do List that’s a mile long … and deadlines around the corner …. and 2 kids in need of costumes for the school play … and … you get the picture!

Does overwhelm get the upper hand?  Do you start feeling unfocused and without a clue about where to start?  Feel like you’re paralyzed in those headlights that are barreling toward you?

This is ripe ground for self-sabotage, because we feel stressed, and a part of us would like to flee.

So it’s really important to be on the lookout for that small, soothing-sounding voice that invites you to relax a little … maybe surf the net … or turn on the TV … anything to escape the overwhelm.

Don’t trust it! In fact, the best thing you can do, when you recognize that tempting tone, is to assert yourself and say a resounding “No.”

You see, we often think of assertiveness as a skill that we need to learn to use with others.  And there’s no doubt that that’s very important.  However, at base assertiveness is a skill that starts and ends with ourselves. Setting goals, making plans, creating time boundaries – these all require assertiveness with ourselves, first and foremost, if we’re to follow-through and accomplish whatever we set out to do.

When I was recently interviewed by our local newspaper, the Monadnock Ledger-Transcript, I spoke to this point:

We sabotage ourselves. Everybody does that,” said Eder, explaining that there are literally a million ways people spend unproductive hours every day. Whether its surfing the Internet or clicking around all the channels on TV, or even picking up the phone when it would be better to continue on the task at hand, “We’re not learning to say, No.” She said that in most cases it’s an assertiveness issue …

That’s not to say that you shouldn’t give yourself breaks.  What’s fundamentally important is that whatever you do, it come from your clear, adult choices – not from self sabotage. When you are listening to the adult voice inside, you will find that you know where your time went.  You may not accomplish everything you set out to, but you are likely to feel good about what you did.

Again, from the article:

“Every choice we make is a time choice,” said Eder. “Everything we do is a function of time.”

Are you inspired to find time and increase your effectiveness? I invite you to explore Secrets of Heart-Based Time Management – my chapter in the book I co-authored – Stepping Stones to Success!

I am so excited to share my proven system for harnessing the power of your mind, your body and your spirit to help you explore your patterns, clarify your values, identify and prioritize your goals … and create your path for achieving them. The in depth interviews contained in this book provide practical and heart-based ideas to get you moving as you embrace yourself and your own uniqueness!

You can give yourself the gift of this wonderful resource today, and get started on your journey toward success, Stepping Stone by Stepping Stone … just click this link to get the details!

What if you could find another hour every day? You can! You are invited to sign up for your FREE Finding Time Success Kit. It puts 3 key tools for your time success right into your hands! Grab it and see how you can recharge your energy, reduce overwhelm and frustration, and come to learn that 24 hours really ARE enough!

Let’s explore time together …

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Find Time by Changing the Steps of the Dance – Gracefully

Posted on December 22, 2010 by , under Time Boundaries.

Finding time to take a new step forward doesn’t have to mean two steps backward, as the saying goes.  No indeed … but whenever you do something new, any number of interactions may shift, subtly or dramatically, in response.  A step forward by you can transform how you move through your moments … and your day.  And to borrow another adage (one that I prefer in this context), “When the steps change, so does the dance.”

I just love the proactivity and creativity of thinking about it this way!  When you’re setting time boundaries to find more time, you’re really taking positive control when you factor in time to establish a new dance … gracefully. Fewer toes will get stepped on – and your progress will be that much smoother!

Setting a new time boundary will often initiate a chain reaction. That’s because change, whether large or small, disrupts the invisible network of understandings that have evolved over time. Any number of “deals”, real or imagined, may underlie your old arrangements. Most are not articulated and many may not even be consciously understood.

So, as you initiate changes, be prepared for others to renegotiate their end of things, too. Accepting this in advance means you won’t be surprised by it.  It’ll be a new step in the dance!

Do your best to not personalize their choices, and to know that this dance is fluid and evolving. The steps are not set in stone; and all that you have control over is your end of it.  The more practical and cooperative you are, the better your chances for a successful transition to a new dance.

Before you set new boundaries, prepare for discussions to work out details. Sort out where you want to actively sponsor certain ideas, and where others can exercise initiative.  Here are some good questions to ask yourself as you get started:

  • In what areas can you move ahead independently?
  • What issues require consensus?
  • What sort of consensus and cooperation will be needed?
  • What falls within your area of responsibility?
  • What outcomes can you let go of?
  • Where are you willing to compromise?
  • What is non-negotiable?

Many win/win options may exist! So consider doing some extensive brainstorming before setting boundaries that change the steps in your dances significantly. Then you’ll be well prepared to craft satisfying resolutions.

How do you set time boundaries in your life now? How has this impacted the dance of your days?  I’d love to hear your experiences with this  … and what you think!

What if you could find another hour every day? You can! You are invited to sign up for your FREE Finding Time Success Kit. It puts 3 key tools for your time success right into your hands! Grab it and see how you can recharge your energy, reduce overwhelm and frustration, and come to learn that 24 hours really ARE enough!

Let’s explore time together …

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