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Finding time to discover the childhood roots of your current relationship with time can be hugely rewarding! Indeed, there are many things that we inherit from our families, and uncovering your time legacy, so that you can make conscious choices about what to keep and what to leave behind, will be at once enlightening and freeing for you.
There may be any number of ways that you adopted an approach to time that you learned long ago and that now works against you. But the good news is that your parents’ time priorities don’t have to be your destiny – not if you engage in some detective work!
So, today I invite you to explore just how you may have come to live someone else’s priorities. When you start by seeing your history with clarity and compassion, you can accept where you are. This, in turn, gives you a solid base, as you then make choices to transform your relationship with time!
To start with, as a child, you were profoundly influenced by your family’s time choices. They taught you important messages about values – what’s important and what isn’t.
Take a minute or two, right now, to recall the family in which you grew up. How did each adult in your household spend time? Create a vivid picture in your mind of how they lived out their priorities, one day after another. Sense the fundamental and personal beliefs that guided their choices. Let the picture take shape and fill itself out.
Next, quickly jot down a few observations about their use of time.
- What came first?
- What came last?
- What message does this give you about their values?
- How do your values align with theirs?
Your answers to these questions provide you with a good starting point for exploring your current time choices. You may want to revisit this exercise to flesh out more and more details over time. As you explore, you will illuminate patterns – some of which are helpful and some which you may want to change. This is your time legacy.
So stay tuned, as we continue to explore this truly fundamental element in your approach to your time. Clarifying the elements of your time legacy gives you a powerful key to transforming your relationship with time.
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Today let’s take a closer look at that second of the three:
Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind. Dr. Seuss
Self-respect is the fruit of discipline; the sense of dignity grows with the ability to say no to oneself. Abraham Joshua Heschel
I am only one; but still I am one. I cannot do everything, but I still can do something. I will not refuse to do the something I can do. Helen Keller
When it comes to being able to really, fundamentally respect yourself and your goals, knowing when to say no to yourself is one of the best skills you can cultivate. And this is a boundary skill.
So often we think of boundaries as having to do with other people. Those are external boundaries, and your skillfulness at setting and maintaining them will help you find the time you need relative to others.
You also need strong internal boundaries to support you in your life’s journey. Internal boundaries are relative to YOU and involve things like how much TV you watch or how much time you spend on the internet. These are time choices that involve you alone.
While we tend to think of “Yes” as an affirmative response, when it comes to your goals and time priorities, I encourage you to reframe each “No” as an affirmation. That’s because attaining your goals and being true to yourself most likely involves the discipline of saying No to many, many distractions along the way.
Remember the proverb: “If you chase two rabbits, you will lose them both.” So, respect yourself and the goals that you value with each and every affirmative “No.”
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Finding time for goal-setting is a key to your success, whether it’s in your business or personal life. In order to do that, it’s important to sift out your top priorities … so reflection is key, at numerous points in the goal-setting process.
It’s not just the content or your goals that bear reflection. For your energy to be in sync with your time priorities and time choices, it’s important that your goals be connected to your core values. That’s a big part of what Heart-Based Time Management is all about.
So, let’s step back and take a look at your goal-setting process. To ensure that you’re setting goals in the most helpful and heart-connected frame of mind, you can use the following tips:
- For starters, ask yourself: How much time have you actually spent creating a clear picture of what you want and why you want it? If you have not seriously reflected upon this important question, or if your idea of what you want changes frequently, your goals will be written in sand. Give yourself the gift of taking 15 minutes a day for one week to think about what you truly want and why you want it. Jot down notes. At the end of the week, you will be ready to engage in goal-setting that will truly represent how you picture your ideal life. And, not only that but by connecting more deeply with your heart-based values, you will have created the motivation to achieve those goals.
- Building on Tip #1, examine the outcome you have defined to ensure that it’s realistic. You may find that you need to do some more specific goal-setting. Or maybe you need to modify your goals to make them come alive in your mind. Making sure that your goals are both achievable and energizing (i.e. heart-based) will go a long way toward assuring that you achieve them!
- Cultivate awareness. This valuable state of mind is encouraged by your goal-setting activities and can dramatically improve your life. Make a habit of looking at your core, heart-based goals at least once or twice a day. You may find it helpful to use a timer to set aside 5-10 minutes on waking up … or before going to bed … to focus on this. Whenever you choose to do it, this discipline will help to ensure a constant state of awareness of your goal, and of why you want to achieve it. This, in turn, helps shape your activities and offers fuel for your energy and motivation.
Bonus Tip: Once you’ve thoroughly assimilated your goal, you’re ready to work backwards. Working backwards as you take steps to actualize your goal will prevent you from falling into the common trap of making action steps too big. As you do this, be sure to document each action step you need to take to be where you want to be.
What’s your next step in making goal-setting a part of your success mindset? How can I help? Drop me a line – I’d love to hear from you!
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Finding time to enjoy cultural events like the Olympics can be a big challenge in your already-busy life, can’t it? These infrequent-and-thoroughly-engaging events bring up questions of time choices, time priorities, time boundaries, you name it!
The first thing to remember is that your time is finite. Adding something to your day means, realistically, that you’ll need to cut something out. This can be a challenging time choice – AND it can be very clarifying and empowering to make it consciously and proactively.
- What could I let go of temporarily, to make room for keeping up with this once-every-four-years event?
- Are there tools that I can use (like a video recorder or on-line access) to fit my Olympic time better with my day-to-day schedule?
- Are there tasks that I could delegate to make more room in my schedule?
The fascinating thing about asking these questions and making these adjustments is that in exploring temporary tweaks to your schedule, you may well discover some permanent changes that you’d like to make.
What a great bonus! Not only do you find yourself time to follow these exciting and inspiring Winter Games, but you also give yourself an opportunity to review and refresh your time priorities.
Have you found time to watch any of these Olympic Games yet? Do you plan to? Let me know how it goes for you and what you discover – I’d love to hear!
What if you could find another hour every day? You can! You are invited to sign up for your Finding Time Success Kit. It’s FREE, and it provides you with key tools for your time success! Grab it and see how you can recharge your energy, reduce overwhelm and frustration, and come to learn that 24 hours really ARE enough!
Let’s explore time together …