Find Time to Expect the Unexpected-5 Tips

Our world is filled with change … all the time!  Finding time to deal with the sudden changes that can present themselves to us is a difficult challenge that is compounded by the fact that, by definition, we are unprepared for them!

What can you do to prepare?  You can establish a base so that when the unexpected occurs, you have a toolbox of skills and responses to draw from.

Here are 5 tips to help you keep sudden change from totally disrupting your time choices, your ability to take care of yourself … and manage your life.

1. Remember that your time choices, and the values that drive them, are yours. Even when your established priorities need to take a back seat to the urgent choices you may need to make, remember that the time choices remain yours.  The more you can own your choices, the less you will feel victimized by your situation.

2. Establish a habit of defining options. Ensure your resiliency by defining options for each of your daily priorities.  This gives you a wider repertoire of priorities, should you to flex in light of something unexpected.

3. Explore adjustments in your personal and work schedules that you can make quickly if you need to. Flexibility is a key skill here! Sometimes our daily list of activities and priorities becomes inflexible. This can be disastrous if sudden change occurs. You can introduce flexibility into your daily habits around time by changing your routines and assessing your reactions to these changes.  It’s really helpful and important to pay attention to this when you aren’t being forced into it by circumstances!

4. Re-examine your personal boundaries. In times of sudden change, your usual personal boundaries may have to flex. Take a few minutes and reflect on those you’ve established. Write them down. This keeps them from becoming unconscious or rigid. By remaining aware of your usual boundaries, you are more easily able to adjust them when sudden change occurs.

5. Be willing to tell others about any sudden changes that affect your usual time choices. When sudden change occurs, don’t bottle it up inside. Family, friends and coworkers only can understand, accept, and support you if you alert them with at least a brief description of any sudden change.

Have you needed to deal with sudden change in your life?  What have you found helpful?  Challenging?  I’d love to hear!

What if you could find another hour every day? You can! You are invited to sign up for the Finding Time Success Kit starting with The New Finding Time Personal Boundary Template. It’s FREE, and when you sign up you will also receive (if you don’t already) my FREE, weekly Finding Time Tips and my FREE, monthly Award-Winning Finding Time E-zine … key tools for your time success!

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Find Time to Make Your Holidays Yours!

CB006061Finding time to get everything ready for the holidays and finding time to celebrate special times may not always be the same.

As Thanksgiving gets closer and closer, with the December holidays waiting in the wings, I have been thinking about two very different ways we can approach these events.  The energy we bring to the holidays can make all the difference in how we experience them!

Do you feel overwhelmed by the holidays?  Are they yet another “task” in your already-full schedule?  Does it look impossible to get the necessary cooking and shopping and planning done before holiday time arrives?  Do you find yourself wishing that you could skip it all?

Maybe it’s time to step back and take another look.

I always encourage people to think of time as a basket.  In the basket are all of the things that your have committed your time to.  Chances are that your basket is full.  Perhaps it is even overflowing.  How do you fit something like the holidays into it?

Well, the other thing that I encourage people to do with their basket of time is to take something out when they add something to it.  Even as a temporary measure, this is important as a way to relieve stress and keep your expectations realistic.

So, as a first step, add the holidays proactively to your basket of time. Making this your own, proactive choice removes the “victim” energy that can sometimes accompany the holidays – especially if you are feeling stressed and impinged on by them.

Next, think about what you can take out of your basket, temporarily, to give yourself some breathing room!

  • Make yourself a quick list of possibilities.
  • Don’t remove your self-care time, as that will leave you feeling depleted just when you want to have access to your best energies.
  • Act on at least one, and ideally two or three of the possibilities you’ve listed.
  • Be sure to let others know, if they will be impacted by your choices.
  • Remember that this is a temporary measure!  Once the holidays are over, you can return to your regular priorities.

As an added bonus, in letting go temporarily, you may discover that there were things on your list of time priorities that you didn’t actually need to be doing.  This can free you up even more going forward!

While we’re talking about holiday planning, here’s something to add to our basket of time for Thursday, December 3 from 7:00-8:15 PM ET! It’s a FREE teleclass offered by my friends and colleagues Cindy Hudson and Maggie McCauley titled:  Color Your Holidays With Calm, Confidence & Courage – Tools To Help You Thrive In The Midst Of Holiday Madness.  As they say, “If you’re tired of the same ole’ same ‘ole holiday routine and you’re ready to feel calm, confident and courageous all during the holidays this year, come to the class and make this the most effortless and joyful holiday season ever!”  Knowing Cindy and Maggie, they are going to have some very useful and inspiring information to share.  I encourage you to check it out!

How are you feeling as the holidays approach?  Have you made room for them in your basket of time?  There’s still time to make proactive choices about it … there’s always time for that … so here’s to your time success!

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Let’s explore time together …

Find Time to Overcome Overload and Exhaustion

Whose Crisis is ItFinding time for what matters most in today’s busy world can be a world class challenge!

Do you find yourself overwhelmed by the demands of your life?

Are you exhausted and depleted?

Would you like to be able to change all that?

Time boundaries are key! I’ve written a lot about time boundaries here on The Time Finder.  They help you make time choices and stick to your time priorities.  Using time boundaries, you learn to say “No” to spending time in certain ways, so that you can say “Yes” to the things you have prioritized.

Today I’d like to extend the notion of boundaries, because time is the coinage of our lives:  it isn’t really something that you can isolate from everything else.  When you set a time boundary, for example, it affects everything that it touches! Most especially, it affects your relationships with those closest to you – your family and friends, your co-workers.

The way you communicate your boundary, along with the quality of your follow-through, will not only define your success in the moment.  It will also affect the response you receive when you set your next boundary.  It’s a building process. The quality of each step ripples out and impacts both the next steps that you take, and the ways that your efforts are viewed by the people in your life.

For example, assertiveness in setting a boundary is more likely to bring you success than an aggressive, critical or “victimy” tone.  (These are likely to elicit a rebellious response.)

When you are on overload, it is especially challenging (and important) to pay attention to your tone.  Remember the ripple effect.  Something like tone can seem like a small thing … but its impact on you and on others can be very, very powerful.  All the more powerful, in fact, because if you are not tuned to it, it can seem very subtle!

Stay tuned for more on boundaries, as we get ready to launch a VERY SPECIAL OFFER here at The Time Finder.  We’re excited to share more information with you SOON!

Do you generally pay attention to tone as you set boundaries and move through your day? I’d love to hear how this works for you.

What if you could find another hour every day? You can! You are invited to sign up and download The New Finding Time Personal Boundary Template. It’s FREE, and when you sign up you will also receive (if you don’t already) my FREE, weekly Finding Time Tips and my FREE, monthly Award-Winning Finding Time E-zine!

Let’s explore time together …

Finding Time When There's Too Much On Your Plate

PlatesFinding time when your plate is already full is a challenge that each of us faces more and more, it seems.  This is one of the down sides to the instant access to information (and to one another) that is afforded by cell phones, the internet, and the numerous other wonderful technological tools that we now have at our fingertips.

Indeed, while technology provides us with many wonderful opportunities, it also brings us new challenges when it comes to prioritizing our time and establishing time boundaries.  If we don’t work continually to manage our focus and time priorities … and stick to those boundaries, we can easily end up with too much on our plates!

My friend and colleague Melissa McCreery is a psychologist, mom, and solopreneur who knows first-hand the challenges of maintaining balance and productivity in a busy life.  She created National Too Much on Her Plate Week, to help bring focus to the challenges that busy women face – and to share helpful resources and information.

The goal of this week is to help busy women … just like you … access the skills and tools to regain control of your life and your time -and move away from that feeling of overwhelm that can be such a part of modern living.  It doesn’t have to be that way!

National Too Much On Her Plate Week starts today and runs ’til October 24th.  And speaking of time choices and time boundaries, don’t forget to sign up for Wednesday’s FREE Teleclass.  I’ll be interviewed by Melissa as part of this week-long celebration.

That’s Wednesday, October 21 at 7PM ET. Please join us then – it’s going to be an excellent class and I’d love to have you there!

What if you could find another hour every day? You can! You are invited to sign up and download The New Finding Time Personal Boundary Template. It’s FREE, and when you sign up you will also receive (if you don’t already) my FREE, weekly Finding Time Tips and my FREE, monthly Award-Winning Finding Time E-zine!

Let’s explore time together …

Finding Time When There’s Too Much On Your Plate

PlatesFinding time when your plate is already full is a challenge that each of us faces more and more, it seems.  This is one of the down sides to the instant access to information (and to one another) that is afforded by cell phones, the internet, and the numerous other wonderful technological tools that we now have at our fingertips.

Indeed, while technology provides us with many wonderful opportunities, it also brings us new challenges when it comes to prioritizing our time and establishing time boundaries.  If we don’t work continually to manage our focus and time priorities … and stick to those boundaries, we can easily end up with too much on our plates!

My friend and colleague Melissa McCreery is a psychologist, mom, and solopreneur who knows first-hand the challenges of maintaining balance and productivity in a busy life.  She created National Too Much on Her Plate Week, to help bring focus to the challenges that busy women face – and to share helpful resources and information.

The goal of this week is to help busy women … just like you … access the skills and tools to regain control of your life and your time -and move away from that feeling of overwhelm that can be such a part of modern living.  It doesn’t have to be that way!

National Too Much On Her Plate Week starts today and runs ’til October 24th.  And speaking of time choices and time boundaries, don’t forget to sign up for Wednesday’s FREE Teleclass.  I’ll be interviewed by Melissa as part of this week-long celebration.

That’s Wednesday, October 21 at 7PM ET. Please join us then – it’s going to be an excellent class and I’d love to have you there!

What if you could find another hour every day? You can! You are invited to sign up and download The New Finding Time Personal Boundary Template. It’s FREE, and when you sign up you will also receive (if you don’t already) my FREE, weekly Finding Time Tips and my FREE, monthly Award-Winning Finding Time E-zine!

Let’s explore time together …