As Transition Models, the 4 Seasons Serve Us Well


Transition models help you through changes.

Transition models are everywhere if you pause and observe carefully.

And there aren’t many transition models that serve better than the annual movement of our four seasons.

And if you think about it, so do the daily changes of the morning, noontime, evening, and night.

Making time to support yourself as you go through your life transitions is a time management skill that is key to maintaining your energy, productivity, and perspective. And this is true no matter what sort of transition you are dealing with.

The reality is that your schedule is already busy with relationships, work, and the logistics of daily living. And then there are times when you are faced with a major life transition. That’s when you can look to transition models like the four seasons, to reassure and ground you as you navigate through changes.

Transition models and your life…

So, what do I mean by major life transitions?

Well, the specifics will vary from person to person, depending on your values, cultural norms, and life situation. It’s most helpful to think about how YOU define a life transition. Here are some possibilities:

  • Starting or ending primary relationships;
  • Having a child;
  • Moving to new a new town or new home;
  • An illness, either for you or someone you’re close to; and
  • Changing jobs.

These are all likely to be major life transitions for anyone who experiences them. Other life events may also affect you profoundly. What is unique to you is how you experience such events and how you find the time to meet your personal needs.

Self-intimacy is key.

To get yourself familiar with your own relationship to your transitions, take any example of an event that is a life transition. Set aside 15 minutes once or twice a week to think about it. During your 15 minutes of reflection, write down the support you need and the changes you need to make to successfully navigate this transition.

This is a process of developing and deepening your intimacy with yourself, and you may discover things that surprise you. That’s because transitions are times of great opportunity and also great vulnerability.

Think of yourself as a new seedling, germinating and pushing its way up through the ground. A fundamental change is taking place, and your task is to befriend yourself, help yourself, nurture and nourish yourself, as you move through the changes. And let the rhythms of nature offer realistic inspiration when your confidence flags.

So, welcome the information that you glean from your inner dialogue, and follow through on giving yourself what you need. In this way you build self-trust. You come to know that you will be there for yourself, no matter what.

That makes any transition not only doable but a source of deepening wisdom and richness in your life.

Want more help with your changes?

Do you ever feel like change is coming at you too fast, or like it just arrives, uninvited, out of the blue?

I’ve recently been working with a client who was blindsided by the sudden passing of a long-time co-worker. It’s turned her work life upside down and has also shaken her on a deep and personal level because this co-worker was the same age and also a good friend.

It’s brought up all kinds of big questions, on top of grief, and new work demands. The stresses and questions are piling up and she is feeling disoriented and anxious.

We’ve been working together on this for several weeks now. And the other day I shared a time tool with her that I want to share with you as well.

It’s titled How to Partner with Change and Aging. And to discover more about it right now, you can click here.

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