Assertive Boundaries Give You Space and Time to Thrive

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Assertive boundaries help…

Assertive boundaries are one fundamental key to your time success.

Setting time boundaries is something that you get better at the more you practice and become comfortable with it.

In fact, your level of comfort, when setting assertive boundaries, is an important ingredient in successfully maintaining them. When others sense that you are grounded and serious about your boundary, it makes a big difference.

And honing your use of time boundaries is a skill that helps you make time for the things that matter most to you.

Time Boundaries: Assertive vs. Aggressive

One helpful distinction as you move forward with this is being clear about the difference between assertive and aggressive boundary-setting.

In fact, recognizing the difference between assertiveness and aggressiveness is helpful in many areas of your life. So, let’s unpack the difference.

What does ‘aggressive’ look like?

Well, aggressiveness is heavy-handed. It carries the energy of blame, coercion, or self-righteousness.

When you’re coming from a place of aggression, you may imply, directly or indirectly, that you’re setting your boundary because someone else has done something wrong. On closer inspection, you may find that you are actually framing your boundary as a punishment.

Here’s an example: “I can’t have you bothering me again when I’m in the middle of this, so now you will just have to wait until 4 PM.”

What about assertive boundaries?

When you set your boundaries assertively, the frame and the feel are entirely different.

Assertiveness focuses on facts and invites cooperation rather than igniting controversy. You exchange information. Recrimination and blame are not indulged. This helps keep power struggles to a minimum.

Here are 3 essential distinctions that make assertiveness so powerful.

Assertive boundaries:

  1. Frame your need.
  2. State what you will do differently.
  3. Address situations, not personalities.

So, how will you set an assertive boundary for yourself today?

I encourage you to start small and build from there, remembering that as you practice, this skill will come more and more easily and naturally to you.

Want more help with boundaries?

Setting and maintaining boundaries is a skill that makes everything else in your life possible. And it’s a difficult challenge for lots of smart, motivated people. People like you.

“Your Secret Power: How to Honor Your Time and Claim Your Space with Boundaries” gently steers you to a more profound understanding of where and how your boundary-setting efforts get short-circuited. Not only that, but it helps you establish the boundaries you need to unlock the door to your freedom. Boundary-setting is a skill that’s learnable, doable and definitely within your reach. And the strategies, tips, and exercises in “Your Secret Power” help you discover how to:

  • Set and maintain boundaries to enhance your productivity and, yes, make more money;
  • Recharge your energy so you have the time and freedom to do what you value and what you’d like to do in your life; and
  • Learn how to say no, which opens the door to your next big Yes.

Ready to start using boundaries to maximize your time and energy? Click the link below to learn more about this transformative time tool and the bonuses that come with it:

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