Challenging Personalities — How to Stop Them From Stealing Your Time

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Remember, you hold the power.

Challenging personalities in your life can sometimes present unexpected roadblocks as you move through your day.

I call them challenging personalities because I’m not talking about “bad people” here, but rather about behaviors that may be difficult for you to handle.

To make the best use of your time, you need to figure out how to manage these behaviors that others in your life may display. What kinds of behaviors am I talking about?

Well, maybe there are people in your life who drag their heels. Or perhaps they heap way too much responsibility on your shoulders. Maybe they lean on you to bail them out. Or they attempt to micro-manage you.

Whatever others do, the good news is that you CAN reclaim your power over your time.

Managing challenging personalities 101:

The formula for managing your challenging personalities is simple and powerful.

  • Focus exclusively on implementing your own time choices. This is where you hold and can exercise all the control. 
  • Also, reduce stress by letting go of attempts to actively manage anyone else’s choices.

Does this sound daunting? Here are some more essential guidelines:

Challenging personalities can’t take your time.

No matter how annoyed you may be with others’ attempts to pressure you, you remain fully responsible for all your choices throughout the day. So focus on developing your ability to steer your own course. And affirm to yourself that you will deal with the consequences. This shift in orientation may feel uncomfortable and unfamiliar at first, but it will become second nature with practice.

Manage your feelings about how others behave.

As you work to develop your self-reference and assertiveness, new understandings emerge.

  • Are you apprehensive about how others will react if you refuse to sacrifice your priorities?
  • Might you feel threatened or guilty, if others express anger or disappointment?

There is a guaranteed way to strengthen your position. Take complete responsibility for handling your own discomfort in the face of resistance. This is enormously freeing.

As you respect others’ right to their feelings, you can remain centered. Your energy then goes to making good decisions for yourself instead of attempting to “fix things” for others.

Don’t become a difficult personality yourself.

The more you become embroiled in attempting to control others in your life, the more likely it is that they view you as the problem. Are you?

The next time someone behaves in a way that you find unreasonable, try shifting your mindset a little. What is their objective, and what is their perspective?

When you don’t interpret their choices as a reflection of your worth, you begin to develop a neutral overview. Then you may identify areas that are open for negotiation. And the more you focus on implementing your own choices rather than attempting to control their reactions, the less pushback you may encounter.

The benefits are palpable…

By lessening your investment in how others respond to your time choices, you have fewer difficult feelings to manage. The less victimized you feel by what lies beyond your power, the more relaxed and focused you become. And as others sense that you no longer wish to control them and that they can’t control you, they may modify the behaviors you have found challenging.

But most importantly, you will have accessed your core strength to change your life for the better. The power resides where the responsibility resides — and that’s with you.

Want more help?

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