Conquer Your Inner Critic — 5 Easy Steps to Get It Done

African Proverb
Conquer your inner critic to thrive.

When you conquer your inner critic you give yourself access to your full self. While your to-do lists and schedules have an impact on your time, so do your thoughts, feelings, and values. 

As a first step toward time success, there are few things quite as freeing as learning to harness the energy that gets undercut by self-critical messages. When you conquer your inner critic, you free up this energy.

Critical messages sap your confidence and creativity. They demoralize and distract, sabotaging your best work.  Then, after the damage is done, your inner critic is there to say, “I told you so.”

The good news is that, because the inner critic works best in darkness and obscurity, illumination is a great antidote.  Shining a light is the first step in freeing yourself from this vicious cycle.

So, are you ready to get started?

Conquer Your Inner Critic

1. First, recognize and own the voice.

The key fact to take in is that your inner critic’s voice is YOUR voice. It may sound like an echo of other voices you’ve known, but in the present, it’s ALL you.  This may not sound like good news but it really is. It means that you have all the power. With that knowledge in hand, your next step is to start recognizing and, ultimately, quieting those critical messages. It is no exaggeration to describe this as a pathway to freedom.

2. Second, pause and listen to the voice.

In the quiet, you’ll notice that there’s a lot of ‘talk’ going on in your head. Gradually, you’ll start to recognize the patterns and cadences of the voices. One will become recognizable as your inner critic. For each of us, the voice will be uniquely our own. Maybe it sounds a little like your mother or father. Or perhaps it’s your 5th-grade teacher.  Pay attention to what he or she says.  What are the themes?  What is the tone?  How does your body feel when you hear it? Because these messages are often so deeply embedded.  They may feel very normal.  They are subtle, pervasive, and form a sort of toxic backdrop to your life.  That’s why it is crucial to slow down and learn to recognize this critical voice.

3. Name the voice that you hear.

Clearly and calmly NAME your critical voice whenever you hear it. Tell yourself, “This is my inner critic talking.” By labeling this voice, you make yourself, by definition, larger and more powerful.  You assert that you see and hear what is going on. The messages are powerful only if you believe them. And naming the source helps you conquer your inner critic because you tell yourself that these messages are questionable.

4. Counter those false messages.

Another powerful step you can take is to conquer your inner critic by offering yourself calm, clear, factual statements to counter the falsehoods  Don’t try to argue.  If you do, you just step into a power struggle that will lead nowhere.  Simply speak directly to your Inner Critic from your place of power.  There will be no retort. 

5. Be vigilent.

As you recognize the critical messages you give yourself, name them clearly, and respond in a calm and grounded way.  This destructive voice has been a part of your life for a very long time.  It won’t disappear overnight, and it will never go entirely silent.  Typically, it quiets for a time and then re-emerges with a slightly different tone. 

And the good news is that as you engage in this process, you are not only recognizing a voice, you are also building trust and self-intimacy.  You are your own skillful ally as you deepen and expand into your fullest and freest self.

So how will you get started today?

Here’s something to help you conquer your inner critic…

We all have voices that chatter at us throughout the day. The Inner Critic is one of them. Learning to recognize (and counter) this destructive voice is a powerful, life-changing skill to develop. And you can give yourself a big boost with my Exercise and Guide Book titled “These Critical Voices Are Driving Me Crazy!” How to Use Positive Self-Talk to Save Your Sanity and Your Time! Part of my popular Voices Package, this E-Guide offers simple, practical exercises, checklists, and tips for learning to recognize and counter the critical voices that disrupt and hurt you.

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You hold the power to make conscious choices about the kinds of messages you give yourself. As you exercise this power, you’ll develop new clarity and confidence – and transform your time. “These Critical Voices Are Driving Me Crazy!” opens the door and gives you a roadmap, so don’t wait.

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