Dealing with difficult personalities requires boundaries.
Dealing with difficult personalities in our lives is a challenge.
It takes discipline and practice. And the path isn’t without its bumps.
But, as you become more skilled at managing your time and relationship boundaries, you’ll find that all sorts of new possibilities open up for you.
Here’s one example of something you might try:
Keep your gears in “neutral.”
Is someone trying to commandeer your time? Resist the natural urge to escalate. Instead, consciously relax to create an inner mood of spaciousness and curiosity.
Let’s say a co-worker pleads for you to bail her out of a hot spot. And let’s say this has happened many times before.
Try restating her predicament calmly, with no blaming or value judgment. You benefit in two significant ways:
- First, you provide yourself with valuable breathing room while acknowledging that you understand the request.
- Second, by reframing the situation from your perspective, you make it clear that you are assessing it for yourself.
Next, include your commitments in the narrative. This extends the overview beyond your coworker’s urgency and limited perspective.
Refusing to reflexively respond to another’s crisis is an act of assertiveness and self-esteem. You create a crucial shift in power by using this simple technique.
Does this sound like something you could try today? What will be your first step?
Here’s more help dealing with difficult personalities…
Setting and maintaining boundaries is a skill that makes everything else in your life possible. And it’s a difficult challenge for lots of smart, motivated people. People like you.
“Your Secret Power: How to Honor Your Time and Claim Your Space with Boundaries” gently steers you to a more profound understanding of where and how your boundary-setting efforts get short-circuited. Not only that, but it helps you establish the boundaries you need to unlock the door to your freedom. Boundary-setting is a skill that’s learnable, doable and definitely within your reach. And the strategies, tips and exercises in “Your Secret Power” help you discover how to:
- Set and maintain boundaries to enhance your productivity and, yes, make more money;
- Recharge your energy so you have the time and freedom to do what you value and what you’d like to do in your life; and
- Learn how to say no, which opens the door to your next big Yes.
Ready to start using boundaries to maximize your time and energy? Click the link below to learn more about this transformative time tool and the bonuses that come with it:
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