Delayed Gratification: The Skill that Empowers

Reframe your goals as choices.

Delayed gratification isn’t a skill that people naturally gravitate toward – not in today’s world.

In fact, when fast food and quick sound bites tend to be our daily fare, it’s hard to even picture how delayed gratification could be a good thing.

But believe me, it is.


Well, we live in a very busy world. Finding time and meeting goals and commitments is a challenge that we all confront daily.  Self-discipline and delayed gratification are key ingredients in any effort to find time to follow-through on priorities.  And yet, both of them often have a connotation of scarcity and of self-denial.

I’d like to turn that idea on its head today and reframe delayed gratification as a positive, proactive, and affirming skill that creates the base for making your goals into realities. 

Delayed gratification is affirmative.

While it may seem like you’re depriving yourself when you practice this skill, you’re actually affirming your goal.

So, think of delayed gratification as giving yourself the space to voice a strong and consistent ‘Yes’ to your top priorities.

I have published an article in titled Time Management Tips – How to Boost Productivity Using Delay of Gratification.  In this article, I refer to the “first discipline” in Scott Peck’s The Road Less Traveled.  There are 5 benefits that grow out of developing your self-discipline and your ability to delay gratification to further your larger goals.

Honing this discipline for yourself develops many strengths and attributes that go well beyond the present moment. They will serve you well in all sorts of situations.

Treat delay of gratification like a muscle you build. Start small, collect successes, and work your way up. The more consistently you exercise this muscle the more strength and flexibility you manifest.

As you clearly visualize the achievement of your long-term goal, you experience satisfaction. This gratification helps you stay on course, as it makes it more compelling than the distraction that had been calling out to you.

You’ll learn as you go. And the more patience and compassion you extend to yourself, the more readily you’ll embrace this discipline and make it your own.

So, ask yourself…

What is challenging for you about keeping your eye on the prize? 

How do you respond to distractions now? 

And how do you validate yourself when you delay gratification and stick with your goals? 

What will you do today to expand on this base?

And for more help…

Do you ever feel like life is coming at you too fast and you’re getting lost in the shuffle?

Are you feeling at sea and rudderless? Unclear about what your priorities even are?

Well, a time tool what I want to tell you about today is my E-Guide titled “Why Can’t I find My Direction?” 17 Journaling Prompts to Create Your Ideal Life.

This E-Guide gets right down to business as it walks you through 17 journaling prompts aimed at helping you come to a deeper understanding of

  • Who you are,
  • What you value,
  • What makes you tick and
  • How you relate to your time choices.

Understanding any ONE of these things more fully is a great gift to give yourself. So I invite you follow your heart as you clarify your priorities and find your direction with “Why Can’t I find My Direction?” 17 Journaling Prompts to Create Your Ideal Life.

Click the link below to discover more about what’s possible for you.

Let’s explore time together …

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