Disruptions, Opportunities and the Eye of the Beholder

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Dealing with disruptions…

What’s the difference between disruptions and opportunities?

Well, if you step back and reflect on it, you realize that the two may be a lot closer than you’d first thought.

That’s because disruptions are simply events that we, then, ascribe certain qualities to. Do we see them as positive? Negative? Jarring upheavals? Welcome surprises?

Disruptions are a part of life.

Life is often bigger than your plans. When your schedule is disrupted by unanticipated events, you can always choose how you respond. So, I’d like to invite you to view these changes as special opportunities to grow and broaden your vision of life.

That’s where your power lies — in your viewpoint. And that means that really, the question for you has to do with how you relate to your power when you undergo change.

Remember, when you make a transition, you are transforming yourself. It is natural to feel off balance initially, so go slowly. Affirm to yourself that important learning can temporarily upset your equilibrium. Encourage yourself to proceed gently, with eyes wide open.

Learning about your unique approach to transitions helps you create a pathway of power that is both grounded and balanced.

So let’s start by shining a light on what disruptions, transitions and change mean to you.

Take a look under the hood.

Your transition style intimately reflects your history and hopes. You may bring creativity and initiative to unexpected disruptions or to upcoming transitions. However, your default responses may also include rigid coping patterns you developed early in life, when you may have been overwhelmed and under-informed.

It’s easy to resort to old behaviors under stress. Unfortunately, reflexive actions rarely do justice to complex demands. You offer yourself a special gift when you explore those reflexes and stuck points with curiosity and compassion.

Here are two common default responses to disruptions or other big changes:

  • One is a white-knuckled grip. You try to manage what’s beyond your control and you burn out.
  • The other is losing your grip and allowing yourself to be carried along by the rush of events as if you were in a spinning kayak without a paddle.

But rest assured, there is another way. The more you assist yourself, the more you evolve.

Here are some ideas to try…

The following guidelines will help you ease the pressure and establish a realistic middle course where you exercise positive control.

Accept that disruptions are challenging and disorienting.

Schedule in extra time to adjust; plan on new activities taking longer than expected. Recognize when you feel overwhelmed. Defer decisions until you regain your equilibrium, and be sure to provide yourself with ample time to decompress and debrief.

View your new situation with fresh eyes.

Use journaling and lists to clear your mind and refresh your perspective. Identify what is actually within your control, and what you must simply accommodate as best you can. Know that you may need to revise your assessment periodically. Change is a new landscape. It takes time to learn its contours.

Cultivate sensible serenity.

If your expectations of yourself are not realistic, revise them with care, creating a grounded image of a successful transition. Rather than focusing on a specific destination, envision your process of moving forward. It’s wise to frame success entirely in terms of the quality of your choices, not an endpoint. This keeps the success criteria firmly within your control, and quiets the voices of self-sabotage and self-criticism.

By cultivating a supportive inner dialogue, you bring the best of what is familiar right along with you as you navigate your transitions. Enrich your self-talk with encouraging mantras, examples of prior successes and realistic questions. In this way, you grow as you go.

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