Don’t Let Being a People Pleaser Pull You Down

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Don’t let being a people pleaser get in your way.

When you’re being a people pleaser, you’re going to face time challenges. And when you address those challenges, you’re going to find more time.

The traits and tendencies that present you with time challenges often grew out of your history, your values conflicts, and your unfinished business. Yet they can most certainly be overcome.

In fact, it’s great news that the internal traits that trip you up are completely dependent on you to survive. They can only thrive by using your energy. And they do so by hitchhiking rides on your plans, trying to scoot under your radar. And being a people pleaser is one of the traits that’s most common.

Being a People Pleaser

Being a people pleaser means that you’re fundamentally empowering others. So it’s most helpful to understand your motivation when you’re undermining yourself this way.

  • Do you doubt your ability to proceed independently?
  • Or do you try to win people’s favor in the hope of receiving some reward?

These are common concerns. Yet when you value others’ priorities over your own, you forfeit your ability to plan effectively.

The Antidote for Being a People Pleaser

To apply the antidote to being a people pleaser, ask yourself these questions. Then jot down each answer in a sentence or two:

  1. What is the worst thing that can realistically happen if you meet this challenge?
  2. When you put yourself first, what new challenges will you face?
  3. In what way will meeting these new challenges help you grow?
  4. How will you become more clearly defined?
  5. What is your very first step that you can perform in a single sitting?

Take that all-important first step as soon as you possibly can. Remember that courage grows with action. And your time challenges lose their power as soon as you stop believing in their distorted messages.

You will receive a number of additional benefits when you develop more self-reference:

  • Your ability to prioritize will increase, because you’ll be paying more attention to yourself and less attention to others.
  • Following through on your priorities will improve, too, because you won’t be re-routed by others’ demands.
  • Interestingly, you will find people respect you more and trust you more, because they will sense your growing authenticity.
  • Furthermore, you won’t be as likely to overbook yourself and then fail to follow through.

One of the most profound discoveries about taking back your power is that you not only have more time – you also have more of yourself.

So what is your next step to truly take your power over your time into your own hands?

More help to stop being a people pleaser…

Setting and maintaining boundaries is a skill that makes everything else in your life possible. And it’s a difficult challenge for lots of smart, motivated people. “Your Secret Power: How to Honor Your Time and Claim Your Space with Boundaries” gently steers you to a more profound understanding of where and how your boundary-setting efforts get short-circuited. Not only that, but it helps you establish the boundaries you need to unlock the door to your freedom. Boundary-setting is a skill that’s learnable, doable and definitely within your reach. And the strategies, tips and exercises in “Your Secret Power” help you discover how to:

  • Set and maintain boundaries to enhance your productivity and, yes, make more money;
  • Recharge your energy so you have the time and freedom to do what you value and what you’d like to do in your life; and
  • Learn how to say no, which opens the door to your next big Yes.

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