Endings and beginnings are happening in our lives constantly.
Taken to the most elemental level, you see an ending and a beginning with each in-breath and out-breath.
You inhale and exhale. Or do you exhale then inhale?
Which is the ending? And which is the beginning?
That’s the thing: our beginnings and endings run together. We are continually in transition, moving from one thing to the next.
Endings and Beginnings and Letting Go
While these transitions are constant, in order to move from the old to the new, we need to give ourselves closure and let go of the old. Going back to the breath analogy, you don’t want to inhale and then just hold your breath. Putting closure on your inhalation by letting go and exhaling is what keeps you going.
And so it is with any endings and beginnings: giving yourself closure is what opens the door and makes the next step possible.
Let’s say you’ve just completed a project at work. When you allow yourself to celebrate and honor that ending, you’re positioning yourself to:
- See the significance of what you’ve accomplished,
- Glean the lessons the experience offered you, and
- Tie up any loose ends.
More than just letting go, celebrate completion.
I invite you to reflect on completion as more than an ending.
Endings, fully experienced, offer opportunities to learn. Through that learning, we find closure and a feeling of completion. A change has taken place. The past is released and the door is opened to what comes next.
Something has ended, something new is about to begin, and you are at a crossroads. When you let go and release the past you enter the first moment in a time of transition.
But without the closure that completion offers, there simply isn’t a place for the new.
You are stuck.
What if you’re struggling with closure?
Endings don’t always feel like accomplishments. Sometimes they are unwelcome, as when a relationship ends or someone you love dies. Still, closure is vital for your health and well-being. Indeed, when you don’t have closure, you’re left with an ending that has no beginning. Think of it as holding your breath.
In such situations actively grieving the loss, acknowledging that you’ve done your best, and creating rituals of closure for yourself can help. The goal is to consciously honor your loss and then release the experience. This then allows you to begin to move forward toward a new beginning.
Closure lets you breathe again. It allows you to fully experience and learn from this transition, even as you move toward the next.
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