Feeling the Fear? Find a Stronger Voice

Raccoon-fear face

Fear is something you can turn around for yourself.

Fear is a debilitating energy that you hold the power to change.

It might feel overwhelming in a given moment, but fear is, at its core, simply a feeling.

In a recent post titled “Assertiveness Strategies — How to Say No When You’re Scared to Death” I wrote:

Assertiveness is a choice you make and an energy you bring.

But how do you move from fear to assertiveness? Well, here’s a tip that will help with that.

Stepping Past Fear

TIP: Overrule Fear with a Stronger Voice.

Can you turn to yourself in times of need? Developing this strength is life-giving when you need to take a difficult stand. Then you have a clear voice to address whatever you may feel.

Fear may manifest as unwillingness. Perhaps part of you says, “I cannot,” or “I will not deal with the consequences of reclaiming my time and my power.” So by affirming your willingness to take responsibility, you dissipate a lot of anxiety.

ACTION STEP: Write yourself a letter of support to marshal your strength.

Take the time to thoughtfully assert your capability and your need to redirect your time and energy. Specify all the compelling reasons to risk saying no. Remind yourself of all the risks you’ve taken up until now that worked well.

Equally important, detail the lessons you have learned from the risks that proved to be more challenging than you’d anticipated. Seeing life as a series of considered risks puts fear in its proper perspective.

EXPLORATION: How you free yourself.

As you are creating a foundation of assertiveness, you are also achieving another vital accomplishment: you are becoming the lifelong traveling companion you have always needed. Once you establish your inner authority, you free yourself from illusory dependency upon others.

Autonomy feeds authenticity and makes old relationships new.

What will you discover about yourself? One thing I can promise you; the more responsibility that you take for your life, the more you will find to like about yourself.

What a wonderful way to enrich your existence, every second of every day.

Here’s more help for accessing powerful voices…

We all have voices that chatter at us throughout the day. The Inner Critic is one of them. Learning to recognize (and counter) this destructive voice is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself. You see, the Inner Critic is a negative, debilitating and constant presence in your life.  And it’s not just the words, it’s the judgmental tone, the rolling eyes, and the scolding wag of the index finger. Beyond sapping your energy and confidence, your Inner Critic robs you of time and profoundly distorts how you see others and how you feel about yourself.

So, what can you do?

Give yourself a big boost with my Voices Package, including my popular Exercise and Guide Book titled “These Critical Voices Are Driving Me Crazy!” How to Use Positive Self-Talk to Save Your Sanity and Your Time! This book offers simple, practical exercises, checklists and tips for learning to recognize and counter the critical voices that disrupt and hurt you.

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Her name is Paula Eder and she is absolutely brilliant
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how to be in relationship with time.”
Heather Dominick 

You hold the power to make conscious choices about the kinds of messages you give yourself. As you exercise this power, you’ll develop new clarity and confidence – and transform your time.

“These Critical Voices Are Driving Me Crazy!” is part of my Voices Package. It opens the door and gives you a roadmap, so don’t wait. Click this link to get started on your empowering journey today.

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