Find Time to Listen to What Your Time Choices Have to Say to You!

Finding time to listen is key to knowing yourself. And part of what that means is learning what’s important to you.

Finding time for what matters most is the core goal of my Heart-Based Time Management system.  So, with all the responsibilities and demands of modern life, how do you figure out “what matters most”?  After all, if you don’t know what is most important to you, it’s going to be very hard to focus your time on it!

Start here…

Last week I read a very interesting post that explores this very question.  Titled “When You Say “I Didn’t Have Time” I Hear . . .” this post was written by Marquita (Marty) Herald on her blog IGG – tips, tools, and tantalizing ideas.  She proposes that we can see what’s important to us by looking at how we spend our time.

“The way you spend your time is the way you live your life,” as we like to say here at The Time Finder.  And Marty’s post explores the useful information our time choices communicate to us if we listen.

How do you spend your time?

When you simply look at how you spend your time, what emerges from that raw data is some very accurate information about what you are valuing.  As she notes:

People love to talk about the things they’re going to do and the places they will go, but then don’t take any actions to realize those goals. Very often inaction is chalked up to being too busy, when what it really means is it’s just not THAT important, even though people don’t dare admit it.

The challenge, in listening to ourselves and assimilating the information we have at our fingertips, is often a matter of filtering. We need to filter out the “should’s” and “have-to’s” and other messages that tell us what ought-to-be important to us.  These messages lead to an awful lot of guilt and unhappiness. And they also make it difficult to hear what we really do hold important.

Clear out critical messages.

I think of those critical messages as annoying static.  The more you can recognize them and set them aside, the more likely you are to come to recognize your own voice. And by extension, that helps you see your own values.  Clearing out the self-criticism, you can begin to look at your time choices as information, clear and simple.  Once you’ve gathered some baseline information about what you do with your time, then Marty has some great advice about next steps:

Try investing some time in measuring your emotional connection to what you do now, decide what you really want, and take some steps to move in that direction. Still not sure? A really good exercise to help you focus is to pretend you’ve lived your life and are looking back over what you accomplished in your lifetime. If you find your goals are still important to you, then it’s time to work on re-establishing your daily priorities.

Clearing out the “should’s” and then looking at how you actually spend your time is powerful. It gives you an excellent foundation for coming back to your goals and aspirations from a much more self-referenced place.  Your time choices will have more flow and congruence. And that will free up your energy in ways that will gratify, and may well surprise you.

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