Find Time to Remember and Move On

Winter BerriesFinding time to honor anniversaries, be they happy ones or ones that mark difficult times or times of loss, always deepens our experience of time.

If you think about it, our lives are filled with anniversaries. And we probably don’t acknowledge, or even remember, many of them.

Anniversaries are Powerful

Yet, we can be affected by anniversaries, even if we don’t consciously remember.

I had one such experience yesterday when I woke to snow falling outside.  I’m not a big fan of snow. But my response to the sound of the flakes hitting my window was much stronger than I’d expect.  It was almost a feeling of dread.

What I quickly realized was that it was a little more than a year ago (December 11th, actually) that New Hampshire had one of its worst ice storms on record.  We lost power for almost two weeks, and have been cleaning up debris around the farm and surrounding woods these many months since.

Remember and Explore

When I knew that I was responding to this anniversary, I was able to pause and explore my feelings about it.  Afterwards, my feeling of dread was gone, replaced by a sense of warm connection with myself.

This acknowledgment of the events of our lives honors our stories (and ourselves) in a very real and healing way.  Each time we “go deeper” we forge an ever-stronger connection with ourselves, and this allows us to move forward in our lives with strength and dignity.  We accept and celebrate our stories, but are not necessarily bound to them self-in limiting ways.

Anniversaries and You…

What anniversaries do you mark in your life?  Are there others that may be affecting you subconsciously?  Would you like to open to them, too? I’d love to hear about what you discover as you explore this!

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Let’s explore time together …


  1. You really touched a chord with me with this post, Paula. My mom died many years ago, a few days before Christmas. As we enter the holiday season again this year, it was helpful to remember that it’s easy to bring memories from past times to our current experiences – whether consciously or unconsciously. While consciously I use those memories to love and honor her (and remember great times), I’m sure that unconsciously there is sadness, too.


    • Thank you for your heartfelt comment, Deb – it certainly resonates for me. Isn’t it part of the richness of life, the longer we live, that each moment can contain such a wide range of memories and touchstones? What a gift to be able to hold all of that, even when the feelings are seemingly contradictory. I’ll think of you this Christmas – and wish for you openness to all of the gifts that it brings!

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