Greeting the Transitions of Aging — 3 Timely Tips

Greeting the transitions of aging frees you…

Greeting the transitions of aging is a topic that you may not reflexively welcome.

And for that reason, readers and writers alike may tend to shy away from it.

Indeed, ours is not a culture that is welcoming of the aging process.  

And that’s somewhat understandable, as our mortality is so closely tied up with our aging. Aging isn’t for the faint of heart. But, if we are lucky, it happens to all of us.

Denial never helps.  

Turning away from aging means, in a fundamental way, turning away from yourself. And in reality, there are few things as rewarding as finding time to:

  • Accommodate changes as you age, and.
  • Achieve true contentment as you grow to meet these essential challenges

Aging is one of those sneaky surprises. Intellectually, you know that with each birthday you grow older. However, some of the consequences of growing older can creep up on you, giving you an emotional jolt and leaving you without a plan, or even without the time required to make the necessary adjustments.  When you find yourself in that spot, you know you’ve fallen into a time trap.

For example…

Does it seem that, as you age, projects ‘suddenly’ take much longer to complete?

Of course, the slowdown has actually been occurring gradually over some period of time. But your realization of the reality of slowing down can seem to come out of the blue.

The challenge, when you find yourself in this kind of a situation is to avoid three types of reactions that keep you from living your moments as fully as possible:

First, avoid denial.

It is tempting, when you first realize that it takes you longer to complete a task, to think this is a one-time occurrence and that if you simply focus and work harder, your original efficiency will return. It’s a time trap to behave as if something is going to return to the way it was when it probably won’t.

Second, don’t get stuck in anger and frustration.

This is a natural initial response, but as you grow angrier and more frustrated, you also become slower and less accurate.  Ultimately, you create a vicious cycle in which your frustration grows as your efficiency and effectiveness dwindle

Third, don’t stay mired in sadness.

It is important, of course, to grieve the loss of your former level of efficiency as you work to embrace your new reality. By acknowledging and accepting this, you gain clarity about your options.  Expressing your grief is one of the most freeing, cleansing, and deepening experiences that you can give yourself.  But if your grief is persistent and debilitating, then you may be mired in it.

The difficulty that accompanies chronic denial, resentment, or despondency is that these responses limit your ability to make functional and appropriate time choices.

Greeting the transitions of aging…

A much more fruitful and enriching path is to take the heart-based time management approach.  Acknowledge your feelings of loss and express them fully within appropriate contexts.

Then prepare to resolve the issues that arise.

This balanced approach keeps you grounded and aware. It enables you to maintain clarity and to problem-solve effectively. This, in turn, lets you move forward and feel good about what you accomplish.

That is your challenge as you greet the transitions of aging and work with the challenges that accompany this process — or really any process that involves loss.  

And really, when you step back and think about it, this applies to ANY change. With change and transitions there are always gains and losses — things to greet and things to grieve.

So, how do you greet your aging and other changes that you may be challenged by?

For more help…

Aging presents challenges for many people. And when that’s coupled with self-critical messages it’s a recipe for huge and unnecessary difficulties. The challenges include:

  • Sapping your confidence and energy with negative messages, 
  • Worries that distort your ideas about what’s needed and what’s possible, and
  • Difficulty adjusting to the inevitable changes of aging.

Basically, you’re attacking yourself all the time. And that leaves you at a terrible disadvantage, any way you look at it.

“Aging Voices: Bringing Compassion to Your Aging and Retirement” puts proven, practical, heart-based time success tools into your hands. This is an E-Guide to be worked with as it steers you to an ever-deepening understanding of the roots of your self-criticism. And ultimately, it helps you start greeting the transitions of aging.

If you’re tired of undermining yourself and are ready to live every precious moment as fully as possible, click the link below to learn more about this transformative time tool and the bonus that comes with it.

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