Mixed Messages Create Time Traps

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Looking back helps you move ahead…

Mixed messages that we received as children lead to confusion. Whether they were about time or about other things, when you look back and learn, deciphering and untangling those messages, you give yourself a gift.

And, on the flip side, leaving mixed messages unexamined creates big time traps for you.

But ferreting out those messages and mining their meanings might require more than just a good memory.

Did your parents’ actions match their words? Or did “What I say” and “What I do” contradict one another? It’s helpful to explore this, for one very compelling reason:  Mixed messages speak loudest.

Let’s say that a family member told you one thing about time and then did something completely different. How did you feel then, and how do you feel now about it now? Conflicting or mixed messages that confused you as a child can easily lead to inner conflicts and disconnects in later life.

And those disconnects create time traps and missed opportunities. Fortunately, you can untangle these conflicts and realign your energies.

Mixed Message Exercise

Find a quiet, comfortable place with pen and paper handy. Now try this exercise about mixed messages and experience the benefits:

  1. Think of an instance where you struggle to match your time choices with your expressed values.
  2. Now, think back to your childhood, when someone you looked up said one thing about time and did something that differed.
  3. Quickly write down what was said and what was done.
  4. How did you feel about this? Write that down, too.
  5. Compare and contrast your current conflict with what you witnessed others doing when you were young.
  6. What’s similar? What’s different? What patterns emerge? Patterns always tell tales.
  7. Now that you’re listening to the actions beneath the words, consult your heart. How might stories from your parents’ lives carry clues about your current situation? What past incidents narrow your sense of possibilities?
  8. Envision a path to more rewarding time choices. Make this as vivid as possible, so you can really experience your progress on this path. This visualization helps motivate you and alerts you to opportunities to move forward.
  9. Finally, ask your intuition about how to proactively walk this path and align deeds with words.

Here are the benefits…

Engaging in this exercise will enrich you in at least 2 ways.

  • First, you gain a compassionate context for time choices you make that puzzle and frustrate you. That feels SO much better!
  • Second, you are in a much better position to change a troubling time choice once you understand its roots.

I would love to hear about your personal journey of finding time to live in power and harmony

And here’s more help…

Do you ever feel like life is coming at you too fast and you’re getting lost in the shuffle? Are you feeling at sea and rudderless? Unclear about what your priorities even are?

Well, a time tool what I want to tell you about today is my E-Guide titled “Why Can’t I find My Direction?” 17 Journaling Prompts to Create Your Ideal Life.This E-Guide gets right down to business as it walks you through 17 journaling prompts aimed at helping you come to a deeper understanding of

  • Who you are,
  • What you value,
  • What makes you tick and
  • How you relate to your time choices.

Understanding any ONE of these things more fully is a great gift to give yourself. So I invite you to follow your heart as you clarify your priorities and find your direction with “Why Can’t I find My Direction?” 17 Journaling Prompts to Create Your Ideal Life. Click the link below to discover more about what’s possible for you.


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