No Matter What Happens, Opening Your Heart Always Helps It Grow


Let your heart grow and transform your time.

The thing is, your heart is stronger than you think.

This is particularly important to remember when you’re confronted with difficult changes and the challenging feelings that often accompany them.

So, the thing is, when you know the following two facts, right through to your bones, you give yourself access to energy and insight that you didn’t know were possible.

And you have access to that energy and those insights, no matter what. So here are those facts…

  • Mistakes are just life lessons in disguise; and
  • Nothing is ever lost, so long as your heart is open and you see with compassion.

The heart of the matter…

I’ll never forget when I first read the following very brief poem by Walt Whitman.   In it, the Good Grey Poet, as he was affectionately known, offered powerful wisdom cloaked in the simplest of forms. Here it is:

Sometimes with One I Love
by Walt Whitman

Sometimes with one I love I fill myself with rage for fear I effuse unreturn’d love,
But now I think there is no unreturn’d love, the pay is certain one way or another,
(I loved a certain person ardently and my love was not return’d,
Yet out of that I have written these songs.)

Not events, it’s your response that shapes you.

You see, it’s not what happens (or has happened) that matters, in the end.  No, what defines you and shapes your path is how you respond to each event along the way.

And responding isn’t just about a point in time or a single action. I like to think of it as a 3-step process:

  1. First, open your heart to the lesson or lessons that are held in the moment.  This doesn’t take away the pain or loss that you may experience, but it profoundly changes your relationship to it.
  2. Second, explore the new insights that the situation presents.  Ask yourself what you need to let go of and what you are learning that you will carry along on your journey.
  3. Third, validate your efforts.  This is so important.  The work you are doing is difficult and often solitary.  You need to be your own best friend and cheerleader.  Really celebrate what you are doing.

Sometimes it really is about size…

When you open your heart to life’s lessons and whatever feelings accompany them, you are recalibrating the “size” of things.  You are, in effect, saying, “I am bigger than this and I can deal with it and learn from it.”  This is a fundamental tool in owning your life and not letting change, loss, disappointment, frustration, or overwhelm get the better of you.

You place yourself in a position of great power when you know that nothing is lost.

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Let’s explore time together…

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