Overwhelmed and Wondering — Is Self-Care Just Pie-in-the-Sky for Me?


Finding time for self-care … just ask Paula!

Self-care is all too often a commitment that we make to ourselves and then don’t follow through on. Other priorities bump it out of the way, and it’s easy to start thinking that we’ll NEVER find time for ourselves.

Well, yesterday we shared a post about time myths that we tell ourselves. And we offered some tips about ways to counteract them.

That post struck a chord for Dionne from Minnesota — someone who’s really struggling with making time for the self-care that she knows she needs. Here’s what she wrote last night:

Self-Care Eludes Me …

Dear Paula,

I want to believe I can deflate the time lie that I’ll never find time to relax and be my best self. But I’m holding on so tight just to get everything done and be responsible. Self-care keeps falling off the table for me.

I’m a single mom and have a full-time job. Where do I find time to relax? It’s all I can do to keep from losing my temper most of the time!

Here’s the response I sent her – one that I wanted to share with you, too …

Small Steps to Self-Care Success

Dear Dionne,

Thanks for writing, and I respect your dedication – to your responsibilities and to yourself!

Here are some suggestions that may be useful to you:

1. Trust in your ability to grow.

Keep a list of ways you’ve evolved over time and add to it whenever you think of another example.

2. Create pinholes of light.

Each moment of relaxation is important and counts. This is a powerful shift in perspective, moving you from feelings of scarcity toward abundance.

3. Create openings by letting go.

Explore how you can balance all the ways you “hold on” with ways you can release and move forward. Often letting go occurs on a heart level, so develop a list of possible ways you can relax, open, and release. Here are some ideas to get you started as you explore letting go:

  • Reduce your expectations.
  • Forgive yourself and others for missteps.
  • List small, daily action steps. Check off and validate each success.
  • Create a gratitude journal and list 3 things you feel grateful for at the end of each day. Even if you only think of one, keep it in mind as you drift off to sleep.

By following these steps you’ll gradually create a fresh path and new patterns for yourself. So begin to cultivate spaciousness, both internally as well as externally, as you befriend yourself.

I hope you find this helpful.


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