Pause and Reflect to Refocus and Find Time for What Matters Most to You

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Pause and reflect to choose wisely.

When you pause and reflect, you give yourself the space to make wise time choices.

It’s actually that simple.

And finding time for what matters most always boils down to your time choices.  You have the same 24-hours every single day of your life. What you do with those hours defines who you are. It also goes a long way to determining the quality of your life.

If you’d like to make your wisest time choices, then my #1 tip is to give yourself time to pause and reflect.  This is a powerful gift to yourself.

Pause and reflect but don’t judge.

It’s important to not be judgmental as you reflect.  If you’re looking at your choices with a critical eye, you won’t get the full range of information about what you choose and why.  In fact, if you approach this self-critically, you simply won’t want to do it.

So be open and non-judgmental.  This is about time choices and making the ones that work best for the unique person that you are.

When you pause and reflect on how things are going, you might consider asking yourself questions like the following:

  1. What are the goals I am making progress on?
  2. Which ones do I want to enlarge on or follow up on?
  3. Do I have relationships that need tending?
  4. What are the accomplishments I’d like to celebrate?

Relax and refresh…

Rather than treating this as one more activity to squeeze into a busy day, try envisioning a large and comfortable space that has room to warmly hold all aspects of your life. This allows you to have a relaxed, inclusive, and self-nurturing perspective while you pause and reflect. You will be amazed at how this can transform your relationship with time.

Even after just a few moments of this kind of reflection, you return to your day refreshed, with energies realigned.

Here are some more things to consider, as you build and experience your own reflection points:

Uniquely Yours:

This is your process and no one else’s.  As you pause and reflect, you can:

  • Focus on one thing or several.
  • Work with a journal or list.
  • Schedule this time weekly, monthly, or several times a day.

It’s entirely up to you. The most important thing to keep in mind is that this is your opportunity to decide for yourself how to make your life work better for you. You needn’t explain yourself to anyone. Your job is to clarify what matters to you. In fact, your points of reflection can inspire you to reclaim personal power that you may have allowed others to control.

Fine-Tune Timing:

As noted above, the timing is up to you.  How often you schedule points of reflection may depend on your level of satisfaction with your life.

Times of transition or of stress may require more frequent retuning, as you work with time challenges or familiarize yourself with a new landscape.

Conducive Climate:

I strongly encourage you to set aside undisturbed time on a regular basis.  It doesn’t have to be long, especially at the start.  As you grow into the habit, you’ll find it so refreshing and helpful, that you may need to limit your reflection time.  You can prepare your environment so that it is especially conducive for relaxing and looking within. Have touchstones nearby that inspire you, and a notepad for recording fresh ideas.

Don’t fall into the trap of rationalizing that you don’t have time to do this.  Remember that your time is precious, unrepeatable, and finite. So the best way to refine your time choices is by building this time into the rhythm of your life.  There is no greater gift you can give yourself than living in a way that is congruent with your deepest values.

Want more help getting yourself  to pause and reflect?

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