Pro Tip for Reclaiming Your Time — Set Some Boundaries

Reclaiming your time is empowering.

When I wrote earlier about reclaiming your time, I noted that clarity and compassion offer the best route to success.

So, when you set a time boundary, your motivation is important, as is the way you communicate your choice.

This is a process that gets easier the more you practice it. Starting small and working from a grounded place of ever-deepening self-awareness helps immeasurably.

As I noted in that earlier post:

The ideal way to take back your time is to stay proactive, self-referenced, fair, and neutral in tone.

Here’s Your Pro Tip

Here’s another tip — a powerful one — to help you set boundaries that really work.

TIP:

Find your center of power before setting time boundaries.

Loyalty to self helps communication flow. Establish a loving and supportive inner climate so you can weather others’ responses.

One thing that makes boundaries difficult to set is that while you are gaining time, others lose your participation. Can you empathize with their feelings while remaining true to yourself? If so, you will be able to calmly hear people out. And you won’t become agitated by their response or try to control them.

Interestingly, your calm acceptance of their feelings signals that you do not require their permission in order to move forward with your plans.

Put this into action…

Preparing for each encounter individually is hugely helpful. Here’s how to do it:

Make 2 tally sheets of gains and losses that your new plan will bring about. One page for you, and one from the perspective of the person you’ll be reclaiming your time from.

Draw a line down the middle of the first page. On the left side, list the benefits you’ll enjoy, and on the right side, note any losses your new boundary will create for you. Repeat the process on the second page, considering the viewpoint of the other person.

What do you learn? Does this give you an idea of the response you might receive? You are much less likely to take their reaction personally if you understand what changes they face. And your ability to see both sides of the situation will help you negotiate a win/win solution.

Finally, create a mantra that affirms your right to take charge of your time. Use it generously to support yourself, and gently let things unfold.

Exploring the benefits of this…

Using these tally sheets carries a side benefit: you deepen your decisiveness. You will see right in front of you how any time choice you make is a dynamic interplay of gains and losses.

Grounding yourself in this fundamental equation fosters realism, and it helps you empathize with others, as well. In other words, you will be tempering your assertiveness with flexibility.

Ultimately, this is very empowering. You needn’t wait for the stars to align to “get it right.” Instead, you honor the intricacy of your important relationships as you move ahead mindfully.

Then, reclaiming your time becomes an exercise in clear vision, loyalty to yourself and cooperation.

Here’s more help…

Time is pure potential. You decide how to use it; and once you do, it’s gone.  That’s why it’s so important to build on your best time choices. 

If you feel like your time slips through your fingers, then you’ll want to claim your copy of my complimentary “Daily Choices Template:  Proven Strategies for Tracking Your Best Time Choices Today, Tomorrow & All Year!

There’s no time like the present – to start moving toward the future you envision for yourself.

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