Quiet Your Inner Critic and Pump Up Your Energy: Here’s How

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What does YOUR inner critic say?

Your inner critic, with its negative critical messages and critical, undermining tone does nothing but sap your energy, confidence, and creativity.

And it’s not just you. Everyone has that debilitating voice inside. Indeed, if you could hear what your family, friends, and acquaintances are thinking to themselves as they go about their daily business, you’d be amazed. Literally, thousands and thousands of people have undermining and negative thoughts droning destructively in the backs of their minds.

And the word debilitating doesn’t even begin to describe the impact of this negativity.

What to do about your inner critic…

Well, for starters, here are some Time Finder Tips to help you learn to quiet your own, unique critical messages. There’s lots of inner power and positivity that you hold, and you are in a position to make different choices about the messages you give yourself.

Knowing this is half the battle.

Tips That Work

1.  Slow down and recognize the voice.

This is the first step. In many ways, it’s also the most important.  You won’t be able to quiet that nagging, undermining voice unless you recognize it.

Sadly, we often get so used to these messages that they are taken-for-granted as the backdrop of our lives.  That’s why it’s so important to slow down and listen. Doing that, you develop the capacity to recognize this voice when it appears.

Practice writing down the critical messages that you give yourself.  You’ll slowly come to recognize the tone and the themes of this voice.  The critical voice is not very creative, nor is it very interesting.  You’ll probably quickly come to recognize its patterns and cadences.  Then the trick is to recognize it in the moment.

2.  Now name it.

Once you recognize your inner critical voice, the next step is to simply name it.  This may sound obvious, but it’s very important.  Say something calm and direct to yourself, like, “Oh, there is my critical voice talking.”

Naming it is a quiet step toward separating yourself from this voice.  When you name your inner critic you are claiming your own power over it.  This voice holds power only when you believe it.  Recognizing and naming the source helps you to see that the messages you are giving yourself are tainted and not to be taken to heart.

Here’s one more tip for you…

3.  Don’t be reactive to or try to argue with your critical voice.

If you treat your critical voice as if it were rational, you are setting yourself up for a great big power struggle.  This voice is by definition critical and negative; it can’t be argued out of its opinion.

Rather than ‘arguing,’ counter critical messages with clear, grounded, factual information.  Do it respectfully and calmly — getting angry or being reactive involves giving away some of your power.

So, for example, you might say to yourself: “I hear that you think I am really looking very foolish right now.  The fact is that your perspective is off base and I am enjoying dancing.  If I listen to you, I’ll stop enjoying what I’m doing, so I am choosing not to listen to your opinion.”

As you can see, the key to dealing with self-critical messages is to:

  • Recognize them,
  • Name them, and then
  • Respond from a grounded, factual, adult place within yourself.

In this way, you retain your power and can move on with your life. Learning to recognize and counter the destructiveness and negativity of your inner critic is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself.

So, what can you do?

Give yourself a big boost with my Exercise and Guide Book titled “These Critical Voices Are Driving Me Crazy!” How to Use Positive Self-Talk to Save Your Sanity and Your Time. This book offers simple, practical exercises, checklists and tips for learning to recognize and counter the critical voices that disrupt and hurt you.

“This guidebook is by a secret genius as far as I’m concerned.
Her name is Paula Eder and she is absolutely brilliant
when it comes to how to be in relationship with self and
how to be in relationship with time.”
Heather Dominick 

You hold the power to make conscious choices about the kinds of messages you give yourself. As you exercise this power, you’ll develop new clarity and confidence – and transform your time.

“These Critical Voices Are Driving Me Crazy!” opens the door and gives you a roadmap, so don’t wait. Click this link to get started on your empowering journey today.

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