Regret — It Doesn’t Have to Be What You Feel When You Look Back


Time’s flow doesn’t have to create regret.

Is regret something that you often feel as you look back at a day? A week? A month or year?

Time, like a river, is always moving. And that, in and of itself, can feel like pressure.

Full moons come and go. Mornings give way to noontimes and evenings. Spring becomes summer and then summer gives way to fall.

And as time moves along, do you sometimes feel like you need to “do it all” to avoid feeling regret when you look back? This feeling often creates a sense of urgency that, in turn, makes it difficult to stay in the moment. That, then, creates even more regret as you step out of the present and into swirls of worry.

It’s the finiteness of time that makes our moments so precious.  At the same time, this limit can lead us to focus on missed opportunities and regrets.  But the good news is that you have the power to make your own choices about how you manage this.

While it’s true that you can never “do it all” you can most definitely limit your regrets. So here are 3 tips to help you do that:

Priorities Help Minimize Regret

Getting clear about your top priorities is the key element in assuring that when you look back over a span of time, you don’t experience the pang of lost moments and missed opportunities.  So here are 3 tips that you can implement right now, to make sure that tomorrow doesn’t trigger regret about how you spent your time today:

    • Brainstorm.  Find a comfortable spot and relax there.  Think about the day ahead and brainstorm everything that you’d like to pour into your moments.  Don’t exclude anything – just let the hopes, dreams, and ideas flow.  This is your baseline starting point for creating your time priorities. The more you practice this step the better you’ll get at including everything.
    • Quantify and Cull.  Now that you have your all-inclusive list. Scan it to determine how long the items will take. As you do this, you’ll also start paring it down.  Look for the obvious things that you can let go of right away without regret.  Cross off those items.  Then, take what remains and start assigning quick timeframes to each item.  This helps you cull some more and will definitely aid in your next step.
    • Prioritize and Finalize.  Next, you’re going to prioritize the items you have left on your list.  The time frames help you be realistic about what is possible.  As well, if your list includes some scheduled events, be sure to note that on your list.  When you have finished prioritizing, finalize your list by including just your top 5 priorities.

Bonus Tip:  

You avoid creating regret by paring your list to your top 5 priorities and promising yourself that you’ll address them.

But you’re not limited to just these 5.  As you move through your list, if you find that you still have time, you can move on to lower priority items.

And ultimately, what this time skill gives you is less stress and a heightened ability to be in the moment and enjoy your time to its fullest.

Want more help with prioritizing?

If you ever feel like life is coming at you too fast and you’re getting lost in the shuffle, here’s a time tool that helps.

It’s my E-Guide titled “Why Can’t I find My Direction?” 17 Journaling Prompts to Create Your Ideal Life. This E-Guide gets right down to business as it walks you through 17 journaling prompts aimed at helping you come to a deeper understanding of:

  • Who you are,
  • What you value,
  • What makes you tick and
  • How you relate to your time choices.

Understanding any ONE of these things more fully is a great gift to give yourself. So I invite you follow your heart as you clarify your priorities and find your direction with “Why Can’t I find My Direction?” 17 Journaling Prompts to Create Your Ideal Life. Click the link below to discover more about what’s possible for you.

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