What You See and What You Don’t — Ripening Your Eyes

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What we see – much of it is up to us.

What we see, in a very fundamental way, defines what we learn and what we are able to do. And what we see isn’t static. It evolves and changes.

I’ve had a couple of clients lately who’ve had cataract surgery. The procedure has verged on the miraculous by their report. Their cloudy lenses were replaced, in both cases, with new lenses that corrected their distance vision.

For the first time in many years, they could read road signs and see the far horizon without glasses.

So, while that kind of correction relies on surgery and implants, I’d like to explore a much more ‘do it yourself’ kind of vision enhancement.

What we see evolves

How many of you have had an ‘aha experience’ where you suddenly see something that you hadn’t, seconds before?

It used to happen for me in math classes when an equation would make sense all at once, after struggling with it mightily. More recently it’s happened when I read poetry. An image that had been confounding opens up and reveals new depths of meaning.

This quote from Emerson sums up what I’m describing.  I have it hanging on the wall in my office, as it articulates a key element in my heart-based process:

“Our eyes are holden that we cannot see things that stare us in the face,
until the hour arrives when the mind is ripened;
then we behold them, and the time when we saw them not is like a dream.”

What we see is subjective

It’s a powerful fact that what we see affects what we know, AND what we know affects what we see. So how do we make that an expansive interaction? What is involved in ripening our minds and enlarging our vision?

I’d cite two ingredients as key to this process of ripening: curiosity and compassion.

Curiosity takes a welcoming approach to life’s problems and hurdles. It opens you to new insights and helps you to embrace what comes your way, no matter how it might look to you at first.

Curiosity tells you that this is interesting, no matter what. (Click to Tweet)

Compassion is a deepening of the openness that curiosity brings. It allows you to soften and look at things that you might otherwise want to turn away from.

Compassion tells you that you are okay, no matter what. (Click to Tweet)

Together, curiosity and compassion help you ripen your mind and open new vistas for yourself, broadening and deepening your experience of life and of each and every moment of your day.

This helps you see…

We all have voices that chatter at us throughout the day. The Inner Critic is one of them. Learning to recognize (and counter) this destructive voice is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself. Beyond sapping your energy and confidence, your Inner Critic robs you of time and profoundly distorts how you see others and how you feel about yourself. So, what can you do?

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