Setting Boundaries Reshapes Your Life Powerfully

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Setting boundaries is a life skill.

Setting boundaries is not about creating barriers.

Quite to the contrary, it’s a time skill that is fundamentally about honoring yourself, your goals and values, and your relationships.

And when you think about it that way, you can see how setting boundaries is one of the most important time choices you can make.

That’s because boundaries (of any sort) are so fundamental to knowing who you are and what is important to you.

Setting boundaries gives your life shape.

This is true wherever and whenever boundaries are employed.

Think about it.  If you have no boundaries, you also have no clear or distinct shape.  You seem very agreeable. You are likely to say yes to everything, indiscriminately.  But what that means, in reality, is that:

  • Genuine relationship is nearly impossible. It’s difficult to get close to someone when their values and preferences are undefined.  If the answer to everything is “Yes” one’s priorities and core values remain effectively hidden.
  • Disappointment is inevitable. It’s impossible to follow through when you say yes to everything. So, while all those “yes’s” may sound agreeable, they often lead to feeling let down.

Reframe your thinking…

It’s unfortunate that boundaries are so often seen as limiting.  I find it more helpful to call them defining. 

They offer you traction as you move through your day and tick off items on your To-Do List.  And they provide a powerful tool for taking control of your time and your life. This, in turn, enables you to live your values and focus your energy squarely on your goals.

Boundaries give you shape in much the same way that bones and muscles do.

Practice, practice, practice…

The more you practice using this skill, the better shape you’ll be in and the more stamina you’ll have for whatever life sends your way.

Is boundary-setting part of your repertoire as you move through your day? 

How will you set one boundary, starting today, to move toward one of your goals?

And here’s more help.

Setting and maintaining boundaries is a skill that makes everything else in your life possible. And it’s a difficult challenge for lots of smart, motivated people. People like you.

“Your Secret Power: How to Honor Your Time and Claim Your Space with Boundaries” gently steers you to a more profound understanding of where and how your boundary-setting efforts get short-circuited. Not only that, but it helps you establish the boundaries you need to unlock the door to your freedom. Boundary-setting is a skill that’s learnable, doable and definitely within your reach. And the strategies, tips, and exercises in “Your Secret Power” help you discover how to:

  • Set and maintain boundaries to enhance your productivity and, yes, make more money;
  • Recharge your energy so you have the time and freedom to do what you value and what you’d like to do in your life; and
  • Learn how to say no, which opens the door to your next big Yes.

Ready to start using this skill to maximize your time and energy? Click the link below to learn more about this transformative time tool and the bonuses that come with it:

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