Mixed Messages Create Time Traps

Mixed messages that we received as children lead to confusion. Whether they were about time or about other things, when you look back and learn, deciphering and untangling those messages, you give yourself a gift. And, on the flip side, leaving mixed messages unexamined creates big time traps for you. But ferreting out those messages…

Worry Never Helps, But Having a Plan Does

When you have a worry your energy and attention are siphoned off. Your eyes turn away from the present. Mired in mud, your tires spin as your worry deepens. Indeed, worry, once it takes hold, easily turns into a vicious cycle that it’s hard to step away from. That’s why it’s so important to learn…

Pause to De-Stress and Step Into Your Moments Again

When you pause in the midst of busy times you immediately reduce your stress. But choosing to take a moment to pause and let go of stress is a challenge. This is especially true when your tasks are pressing and time feels like it is rushing by. The thought of pausing in the midst of…

Temporary Time Boundaries — How They Help

What are temporary time boundaries and why would you want to use them? We’ve written in the past here about time boundaries, and today I want to focus on the importance of paying attention to how you communicate these boundaries to yourself. Setting, communicating, and maintaining time boundaries is a vital skill for getting things…

Self-Care Choices and the Holidays — It Just Takes 30 Seconds

Your experience of each moment, and of your life, is determined by your time choices. And this may be most true in relation to your self-care choices.  And I don’t just mean the big choices. It’s right down to the smallest self-care choices you make. So, that’s a very powerful fact to assimilate: The choices you…

Choosing the New, It’s All Up to You

Choosing the new is a proactive and affirmative time choice that you have the power to make in each and every moment. And, indeed, finding time to welcome the adventure of each new day and each new moment, transforms your relationship with time. This is an especially good time to think about this: as we…

Redefine Success to Clarify Your Time Choices and Refresh Your Sense of Self

Success is a concept that we generally think we understand — right up until we sit down and attempt to define it for ourselves. Then it becomes a more complicated idea. It’s complex because there are so many different factors that play into it: family and cultural influences, natural inclinations, good friends and teachers who’ve…