Being perfect is a standard that many people hold themselves to. It’s an impossible goal that leads to chronic frustration and feelings of failure. And it’s also a value that our culture rewards, even though it’s essentially a trap. Being perfect trips people up in many different ways. One area where it may present challenges…
If Your Perfectionism Keeps You Stuck, 3 Simple Questions Can Help
When perfectionism keeps you stuck, what can you do? The answer is as simple as asking yourself a few clear, direct questions. The pursuit of perfection is paralyzing. It’s an immobilization that is based in striving for the impossible. And unfortunately, it’s a tendency that many of us suffer from to varying degrees. Perfectionism can…
Excellent or Perfect? How You Answer Really Matters
Is it excellent or perfect? What you think about this question, and where you draw the line, makes a huge difference in your life. Maybe you are wondering, today, whether your desire for excellence is healthy or something that steals your time and peace of mind. Here are some considerations to help you explore what…
Stop Perfectionism in Its Tracks with Compassion — More Timely Tips
In a previous blog post about the childhood roots of perfectionism, I shared 3 tips to help you deal with perfectionism. This self-sabotaging time thief at once slows you down and wounds you. It presents you with an impossible goal, no matter what you’re doing. Then it proceeds to criticize what you produce and eat…
Practice Makes Progress — Let Go of Perfect and Focus on Process
Practice is a very powerful tool for developing and sustaining skills. And yet, for many people the word has negative connotations. How many of you remember being called inside to practice the piano when you wanted to be playing with your friends? Not fun. And practice can feel boring and/or painful at times. Think about…
Truth Serum for Perfectionistic Poison
Truth serum is what you need if your life is infected with perfectionistic poison. And truth serum is what we shared recently in our post titled “Perfection Paralysis – Overcome It with 3 Tips.” You see, many of us (myself included) carry inside what I call a perfectionist sub-self. This sub-self gives us messages and supports time…
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