Taking Back Your Time — A Process Worth Exploring

Your time
Your time is yours.

Taking back your time is a perennial challenge. And it’s one worth taking on, because when it comes right down to it, your time is your most valuable asset.

Think of the opportunities that are beckoning right now, at this moment. And then think of the tasks that are calling out for your immediate attention.

Maybe there are people in your life who assume that you’ve given some of your time to them.

Are there goals you’d like to pursue or new activities you’d like to undertake that you feel like you just don’t have time for right now?

If so, then the logical next question is: Are you ready to start taking back your time?

Taking back your time isn’t easy.

But when you approach this challenge with clarity and compassion, well prepared to negotiate, you may be amazed by how much time you can free up. Your relationships may grow, too.

Here are three proven guidelines. They can make the difference between setting time boundaries that endure and those that erode, or even backfire.

1. Be your own clear-headed best friend.

Know what power is yours to claim, and what responsibility comes with it. When you inwardly affirm your right to make your own time choices and fully commit to the work involved, it’s easier to communicate new boundaries with relaxed, open energy. So develop your enlightened assertiveness until it blossoms into balance and ease.

2. Carefully examine your prior commitments.

What loose ends really need to be tied up? Before setting boundaries, develop some options. How might you pitch in, and when will you step aside? Bring these insights to your negotiation. Volunteering support within clear parameters helps generate goodwill while providing a realistic exit plan.

3. A clear time boundary is a clean and compassionate one.

You may be tempted to take back your time from someone as an expression of anger or disappointment. But you’ll be happiest if you talk yourself past such urges. The ideal way to take back your time is to stay proactive, self-referenced, fair, and neutral in tone.

So when you feel frustrated or upset, slow down. Weed out any desire to punish or control others before you initiate any talks. Once you’re clear, you can communicate with “I” messages and really mean them. You will encounter less pushback if you don’t lose sight of the other person’s vantage point. And you will find it easier to remain both emotionally present and non-reactive.

Remember, it’s a process…

Taking back your time is always going to be a process. Patience will reward you with power. When you follow these 3 guidelines to be clear, compassionate and open to negotiation, you will create a comfort zone that helps you keep on course, even in the face of resistance.

Before you know it, you will be well on your way to fulfilling the special promises your time holds for you.

Here’s more help with time boundaries…

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