Time Marches On, and So Do We

Time marches on
Open to your changes…

‘Time marches on’ may sound like a cliché, but it is undeniably true.

It’s a fact that many of us don’t think about until a birthday arrives, or we move from the old year to the new. But the reality is that the passage of time is something that we all experience and observe, for as long as we are lucky enough to be alive.

And growing older is part of that experience, too. It’s universal and it’s happening all the time, whether we acknowledge it or not.

We age and time marches on…

This process brings with it changes that can be challenging on a number of fronts. Maybe you’ve been procrastinating about a task that’s coming due. The inexorable march of time brings you closer and closer to your due date, no matter what.

Or maybe the forward march of time forces you to face certain changes of aging when you’d rather not. 

Finding time to acknowledge and meet the challenges of time’s march forward is a time skill that we all to well to practice in our lives. Indeed, it is an essential skill for your time management toolbox.

Surprises

Let’s look at the changes of aging, for example. They can come as a surprise. You may know in your head that time marches on and every year you’re getting older. But the consequences of this can creep up on you. And you may find yourself feeling surprised by the adjustments you need to make. They might feel sudden to you, even though they really aren’t.

For example, do you notice a shift in what you’re able to accomplish in a day? Everyday tasks just seem to eat up more time and bedtime feels like it arrives earlier than it used to? Of course, the slowdown has actually been occurring gradually, but your awareness of it seem to come out of the blue.

Reactions…

The challenge here is to avoid being reactive. And, in fact, here are 3 specific reactions that are tempting and very unhelpful:

Avoid denial. When you realize that it takes you longer to complete a task, don’t chalk it up as a one-time occurrence. You may want to think that if you just work harder, your efficiency will return, but that’s a disservice to reality.

Second, feel and let go. You may have lots of different feelings about what is happening. That’s normal and healthy. Fear or anger or frustration (or all three) might come up for you. These are all natural initial responses, but as you hang onto them, you become even less efficient, less focused and less accurate. In short, you create a vicious cycle for yourself.

Third, don’t stay stuck in sadness. It is important to grieve the loss of your former level of efficiency as you work to embrace your new reality. As with any feelings you have about this process, opening to your experience is key. By acknowledging and accepting this as a natural part of growing older, you open your heart and this gives you clarity about your options. 

Acceptance and compassion open doors…

Denial, chronic resentment, and despondency are all responses that close the door on possibilities. They limit your ability to make functional and appropriate choices.

A much better option is to acknowledge your feelings of loss, and then explore and express them with heart-based skills and compassion. This does two very powerful things:

  • It clears the air, and
  • It deepens your connection with yourself.

From this place of acceptance you are ready and able to look at ways to resolve the issues that arise.

This balanced approach keeps you grounded and aware. It lets you maintain clarity and problem-solve effectively. Doing this, you move forward, feeling good about what you accomplish.

So, that’s your challenge. It’s the challenge of all of us who are privileged to still be growing older.

And here’s something more to consider…

Is retirement one of the changes you’re starting to see on your horizon?

Well, it’s a profound shift in how you spend your time. It can be very unsettling, and it also offers rich opportunities. How you move ahead makes all the difference, and the choices are all yours.

Grounded in your own truth, you’ll make more satisfying plans and choices as you move into this transition because they’ll be congruent with your values. 

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