Truly, It’s the Only Way Change Happens — A-Day-At-A-Time

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Make it happen for yourself…

A-day-at-a-time is the mantra for your incremental path to time success.

And taking it a-day-at-a-time is advice that’s so pervasive in our culture that it’s easy to not really take in its import.

How often have you heard that phrase? And the bigger question: How often have you acted on it?

Yes, it’s true.

A-day-at-a-time really is how change happens.  But when your goals are big and you’re in a hurry, it’s so easy to forget that. Losing patience and perspective, you get caught up with berating yourself for missteps.

Or, on the flip side of the coin, when things are going well, maybe you get complacent and relax, forgetting that you need to keep taking those steps if you want to keep moving.

That’s the thing: When we let go of that a-day-at-a-time focus, we get lost. Or, more precisely, we lose our footing and then we lose ground.

Embracing a one-day-at-a-time perspective means that, by definition, we start and stay small.  That, in turn, means that we make our goals doable and are creating an incremental path toward success.

Conversely, NOT staying small leads inevitably to disappointment. When you bite off more than you can chew, you set yourself up for failure.

One-day-at-a-time and your goals

So, how does this perspective work when you have really big goals?

Actually, it works quite well. 

Your goals can still be as big as your dreams. But you create stepping stones to move toward them. In other words, you make a path for yourself that includes as many small steps as you need to get from where you are to where you want to be.

For example…

If your goal is to create and sustain a new habit, you ground yourself in reality, knowing that it’s going to take a lot of repetition for change to take root. Each step is important, but no one step makes or breaks things. You have room for ‘mistakes’ because you know that, while each link in the chain is vital, if you break the chain you can usually pick it up again and keep going.

There’s a balance to maintain here. Each step is important, but it’s a form of self-sabotage to view any single step into a make-or-break proposition. Encourage and energize yourself with your commitment to follow-through, but don’t beat yourself up for a misstep.  That just distracts you and keeps you stuck in self-criticism.

A-Day-at-a-Time Challenge

So, what if you commit, right now, to one change that you’ll make in your life in the coming month? Commit to doing it one-day-at-a-time, whatever it is.

My commitment is to make time to get outside and walk for at least 15-minutes a day. This is a busy time of year, but I know how exercise energizes and sustains me. So making time for even just a little bit helps. And I also commit to stretching it longer when I can.

So, what small step would you like to take, one-day-at-a-time, in the coming month? The thing is, we can all change our lives incrementally and powerfully, one small change at a time.

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