Want to Change Your Life? Start by Changing a Pattern.

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Changing a pattern opens your eyes.

Why is changing a pattern so powerful? Well, let’s take a look.

When you take time to recognize the habits and patterns in your life you give yourself some solid ground to stand on. Then, your next step is to make conscious choices about them.

This is one of the most powerful skills that you can cultivate in your life.  Creating systems and templates (both are essentially patterns) can be great time-savers.  However, patterns can also become rote responses that may not always be helpful.

So, what is it about changing a pattern that helps?

The power inherent in changing a pattern was nicely summed up by the poet Tuli Kupferburg, who once wrote:

When patterns are broken, new worlds emerge.

A change in a pattern is like a fissure — and opening which offers you a new view. You see things that you simply wouldn’t be able to without that ‘break’ in your usual pattern.

Imagine that one of your patterns is to always say yes when a co-worker interrupts you to ask for help with her project?  You like feeling helpful, but you never complete your own tasks. 

So what if you said a firm and friendly “No” the next time she asked?

Everything would change…

So, how do you do it?

Well, learning to recognize and change a pattern doesn’t require you to make a significant time commitment. 

All you actually need is a simple willingness to step into the unfamiliar and to see.  Once you embrace that willingness, the possibilities are endless.

Setting a time boundary for yourself is essentially what you do when you say “No.” And it’s a choice with life-changing ramifications.

Changing a pattern means changing your perspective.

When you begin to explore this time management skill for yourself, everything begins to look different. And this is powerful because, as Marcel Proust pointed out:

The only real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes.

Choosing change is transformative in so many ways.  So, how will you start to look at your patterns and make changes?  And how will you enlist time boundaries to make that happen?

Here’s more help with time boundaries…

Setting and maintaining boundaries is a skill that makes everything else in your life possible. And it’s a difficult challenge for lots of smart, motivated people. People like you.

“Your Secret Power: How to Honor Your Time and Claim Your Space with Boundaries” gently steers you to a more profound understanding of where and how your boundary-setting efforts get short-circuited. Not only that, but it helps you establish the boundaries you need to unlock the door to your freedom. Boundary-setting is a skill that’s learnable, doable and definitely within your reach. And the strategies, tips and exercises in “Your Secret Power” help you discover how to:

  • Set and maintain boundaries to enhance your productivity and, yes, make more money;
  • Recharge your energy so you have the time and freedom to do what you value and what you’d like to do in your life; and
  • Learn how to say no, which opens the door to your next big Yes.

Ready to start using boundaries to maximize your time and energy? Click the link below to learn more about this transformative time tool and the bonuses that come with it:


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