That Warm Bath is NOT an Indulgence — Self-Care is Your Job, Too


Find time for that warm bath.

Whether it’s a warm bath or getting to bed on time, self-care is key to your time success.

But how often do you see your self-care as self-indulgence?

Finding time to manage competing needs and competing priorities is a challenge that we face every day in our busy lives.  Sometimes we rebel against the choices we need to make. I hear it often from my clients.

The warm bath challenge…

The discipline of managing time can feel draining. And time pressures often push at the time boundaries we create. But self-care sometimes pushes at those boundaries as well.

For example, let’s say you’ve decided to treat yourself to a warm bath, but it’s nearly time to shut down for the day and get to bed. You want to give yourself that relaxing gift, but it’s going to mean that you get to bed later than you’d intended.

How do you feel about that? And what do you do?

This can certainly be a challenge!  A few things spring to mind, that may help:

Here are some ideas…

  • Especially when you are very busy, it’s easy to become ungrounded and end your day feeling frazzled and rebellious. This is true, no matter how well you’ve planned. So, try giving yourself brief breaks during the day.  This grounds you periodically. You’re likely to feel less inclined to rebel against time management at the end of the day.
  • Remind yourself that you are ALWAYS in charge of your time choices. When you remember that time priorities are yours to set, you feel less rebellious.  Operating based on “should’s” (or on others’ needs and wants) leaves you likely to feel victimized and rebellious.
  • Pause briefly and reflect before making a time choice. This is especially helpful if some part of you is questioning the choice. The pause creates space. Here you introduce your more balanced, “adult” voice to the equation. Your choice will be less reactive and more grounded.

So, in the situation above, you might end up choosing a warm bath even after reflecting. Indeed, 15 minutes or so of relaxing in a warm bath might move your bedtime back. But it would improve the quality of your sleep as well.

The key is that you’d be making and owning the choice from your center. This is so much more grounded than choosing from feelings of victimization or rebellion.

How does this work for you?

Managing competing time priorities, sorting out competing needs, and differentiating wants from needs are all challenges that we face multiple times each day.

How do you manage competing time priorities?  Drop me a line – I’d love to hear!

And here’s more help…

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