Are Your Worries Scaring You? Well, This Really Helps.

worries create stress

Are worries stressing you out?

Your worries have a profound impact on your energy and your stress level. Beyond that, worries affect your experience of time and eat away at your enjoyment of your life.

It seems obvious that worry would trigger fears and add to your stress.

But what is less obvious is the fact that slowing down and facing a worry can actually relieve your fear and stress.

So, try not to react to worries…

When you’re worried your instinct is usually to speed up. Your focus is either on getting away from or addressing whatever is causing your concern.

Both of these responses are usually very quick. And the reality is that they are reactive and will increase, rather than decrease your feelings of stress.

If you try to get away from something that you’re worried about, you are reinforcing the magnitude of its “scariness.”

Pema Chodron, in one of her workshops, tells a wonderful story that I’ll recount here:

A monk is approaching a monastery that is guarded by fierce dogs. As he draws closer the dogs come racing out, barking, growling, and baring their teeth. The monk is terrified and his first impulse is to turn and run. But he knows the dogs will be upon him an instant. So, instead, he pauses and takes a deep breath. Then he does something surprising. He runs TOWARD the dogs. And the dogs stop in their tracks, turn, and run back, in the other direction.

What do you learn?

There are two key elements for you to consider in this story.

The first one is the deep breath.

The monk chose to pause in the face of swiftly approaching danger. This is a small-but-powerful time choice that immediately puts you in charge of yourself and your moment, even as everything in you may be shouting, “Flee!”

Second is the choice to move toward, rather than away from, the source of the fear or worry.

Turning away from a fear, you give yourself the message that it is “too big” or “too scary” or “too hard” to deal with. Turning toward it, you immediately let yourself know that it’s of a manageable size. You may not have all the answers, but you’re taking charge, and that is very reassuring.

Yes, it really works…

Once you have taken a breath and taken charge, your mind is cleared and you are able to be much more creative in your problem-solving. These two simple choices about how you use your time (in the briefest of moments) make a huge difference!

What is your immediate response when you’re confronted with a looming worry or a big fear?

How do you choose to use your time, as you respond in the moment?

Leave a comment — we’d love to hear.

And here’s something else that helps…

We all have stresses and worries. And we all have voices that chatter at us throughout the day. The Inner Critic is one of them. Learning to recognize (and counter) this destructive voice is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself. You see, the Inner Critic is a negative, debilitating and constant presence for so many.  And it’s not just the words, it’s the judgmental tone, the rolling eyes, and the scolding wag of the index finger.

Beyond sapping your energy and confidence, your Inner Critic robs you of time and profoundly distorts how you see others and how you feel about yourself. So, what can you do?

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