Your Aging Process — How to Embrace, Rather Than Deny It

expectations and your aging process
Your expectations affect your aging process.

Your aging process is a fundamental fact of your life — as it is for everyone. It begins when we are born and it evolves through the span of our days.

So what images come to mind when you hear that phrase? Your aging process — do you embrace it?  Try to deny it?

How does the idea of aging fit into your world?

Having celebrated a birthday this month, I’ve been reflecting on aging:  my own, and the process in general.

Your aging process is foundational.

The reality is that from the moment we take our first breath, we are all aging.  It’s a part of the human condition, and yet, depending on your culture, your perspective, and even your family history, people’s approach to and experience of this fact varies significantly.

Today I want to help reframe your view of your aging process so that you can truly be with yourself as you live your moments, days, and years.  I encourage you to integrate and implement the following 5 tips because how you view and respond to aging will, to a large extent, define how you live it.

So, here are those tips:

1. Aging occurs over time.

Sometimes the changes of aging may sneak up and surprise you, but in reality, they generally don’t come suddenly. Rather than worry, review the last few months. Can you identify the incremental changes in your efficiency? Let your new clarity help you assimilate the changes and accept them as a natural part of living.

2. Don’t deny your aging process.

Compassionately and directly confront the realization that you move more slowly, and that it takes you longer to complete some activities. It’s a temptation to deny the reality of these life changes and to tell yourself that things will return to their normal pace once you are less tired or stressed. However, this keeps you on the defensive. Assert positive control by noticing tasks that take you longer to complete and strategizing accordingly.

3. Notice, then let go of anger and frustration.

Encourage your feelings to flow. This means letting them come up and then letting them go. Staying stuck in anger or frustration diverts your energy from deciding how to adjust to changes. So, use your creativity to craft new ways to be productive while accepting that the time required overall may increase.

4. And the same with grief — don’t stay stuck.

Grief, too, needs to flow and then make way for the new. If your self-esteem is tied to high productivity and accomplishment, you may initially feel lots of loss as you slow down. However, aging opens new doorways, if you look forward, not back. As you genuinely accept your losses and honor your accomplishments, you’re in a position to reframe your experience and find ways to celebrate what truly matters.

5. Humor humanizes.

Approach your aging changes, as well as those of your friends, with empathy and a humorous anecdote or two. Negative attitudes are contagious. So is a pragmatic view, softened by humor. It creates an environment of acceptance.

Whatever stage of life you are in, aging is a part of everyone’s journey through time. And it can be a creative and inspiring adventure.  

How will you make it so for yourself, starting today?

Here’s more help with your aging process…

Do you ever feel like change is coming at you too fast, or like it just arrives, uninvited, out of the blue?

I’ve recently been working with a client who was blind-sided by the sudden passing of a long-time co-worker. It’s turned her work life upside down and has also shaken her on a deep and personal level because this co-worker was the same age and also a good friend.

It’s brought up all kinds of big questions, on top of grief, and new work demands. The stresses and questions are piling up and she is feeling disoriented and anxious.

We’ve been working together on this for several weeks now. And today I shared a new time tool with her. I want to share it with you as well.

It’s titled How to Partner with Change and Aging. And to discover more about it right now, you can click here.

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