Your Aging Self — How to Be Your Own Friend on This Journey

flexibility and your aging
Your aging requires flexibility.

Your aging may bring you up short sometimes. I know it’s been true for me. We are all aging, and no matter what stage of life you are in, aging brings changes. So, have you had that experience of feeling surprised about any of those changes?

The other day I was talking with a client who will soon be turning 70 and she shared that in her mind she was decades younger. She said that she experiences a kind of shock at the reality of soon embarking on this new decade in her life.

Is your aging ever a surprise like that for you? Intellectually, you know that with each birthday you grow older. However, some facts and consequences of growing older can creep up on you, leaving you without a plan, or even without the time required to make the necessary adjustments.

Avoid these 3 reactions to your aging:

Does it ever seem that projects ‘suddenly’ take much longer to complete? Of course, this isn’t really a sudden change. The slowdown has actually been occurring gradually over some period of time. But your realization of the reality of slowing down may feel like it comes out of the blue.

When this happens, the challenge is to avoid three types of reactions:

  • First, avoid denial.
    It’s tempting when you first realize that it takes you longer to complete a task, to think this is a one-time occurrence and that if you simply focus and work harder, your original efficiency will return. It’s important to realize that it probably won’t.
  • Second, avoid becoming entrenched in anger and frustration.
    This is a natural initial response, but as you grow angrier and more frustrated, you also become slower and less accurate, creating a spiral of lost efficiency. Your own reaction slows you down more, making you feel even worse.
  • Third, don’t stay stuck in sadness.
    It is important, of course, to grieve the loss of your former level of efficiency. This enables you to work to embrace your new reality. By acknowledging and accepting the losses, you gain clarity about your options.

It’s all about your choices.

The difficulty that accompanies denial, chronic resentment, or despondency is that these responses limit your ability to make functional and appropriate choices.

A more helpful and productive path is to acknowledge your feelings of loss and express them in appropriate ways within appropriate contexts. Then prepare to resolve the issues that arise.

This balanced approach keeps you grounded and aware. It enables you to maintain clarity and problem-solve effectively. Then you are in a position to move forward and feel good about what you accomplish, no matter how old you are.

What one thing will you do to proactively greet your aging self today?

More help with your aging…

Aging presents challenges for many people. And when that’s coupled with self-critical messages it’s a recipe for huge and unnecessary difficulties. The challenges include:

  • Sapping your confidence and energy with negative messages, 
  • Worries that distort your ideas about what’s needed and what’s possible, and
  • Difficulty adjusting to the inevitable changes of aging.

Basically, you’re attacking yourself all the time. And that leaves you at a terrible disadvantage, any way you look at it.

“Aging Voices: Bringing Compassion to Your Aging and Retirement” puts proven, practical, heart-based time success tools into your hands. This is an E-Guide to be worked with as it steers you to an ever-deepening understanding of the roots of your self-criticism. And ultimately, it helps you unlock the door to your freedom.

The strategies, tips and exercises in “Aging Voices” help you discover how to:

  • Recognize the language and tone of your own, unique, critical voices;
  • Counter those voices with realistic and compassionate messages; and
  • Enlist your fullest energies as you greet the changes that come with retirement and aging.

If you’re tired of undermining yourself and are ready to live every precious moment as fully as possible, click the link below to learn more about this transformative time tool and the bonus that comes with it.

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