Your Conflict Resolution Skills — 7 Steps to Time Success

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Your conflict resolution skills get you unstuck.

Your conflict resolution skills are key elements in your time management toolbox. And they can be a challenge to implement sometimes.

Indeed, when everyone isn’t on the same page, these skills are exactly what’s called for.

And keep in mind that the conflicts you experience may not always be external.  If you are ambivalent about a task or project, this, too, is a conflict that needs to be resolved.

Step outside the box…

Ask yourself some questions, like how much time are you spending locked in circular dialogue with friends, family, co-workers, or yourself?  And how frustrating and draining do you find this?  Wouldn’t you love to change it?

Any way you look at it, when your conflict resolution skills are strong, they will free up enormous amounts of your time. You can reclaim that time, sort out your time priorities, clarify your relationships, and reduce your stress, all in just 7 steps.

Step #1:

Dedicate a small notebook for information gathering. This isn’t just important because you’ll need if for keeping track.  It’s also important because it makes your intention concrete.  You’re telling yourself that you’re serious about this.

Step #2:

For the next few days, simply document. If you bring a critical eye to your information-gathering, you won’t be open with yourself. So, let yourself be aware of interactions that feel habitual and frustrating.  Examples might include arguing with your teenager about doing dishes or giving your partner unsolicited (and unwelcome) advice about an issue with a co-worker.  Then, think about the following (and jot some notes about what you discover):

  • When do the problems occur? (Is it when you’re already upset about something?  When people first walk in the door?)
  • How do you view your role in relation to the person you’re interacting with?
  • How do you think he or she sees your role?
  • What patterns do you notice?

Step #3:

Do less, not more. You may care deeply about the issue, but remind yourself that circular conversations go nowhere. When tempers flare or dialogue gets stuck, that’s your signal that it’s time to take a step back and survey the situation. You needn’t choose between “giving in” or “backing down.”  You can simply say, “I’d like to give this more thought. I’ll get back to you later.”

Step #4:

Schedule follow-up. The best course is to set this up cooperatively. Choose a time when everyone can be relatively relaxed and focused. See this as an opportunity to collaborate on mutually satisfactory solutions.

Step #5:

Do your homework. As you prepare, actively empathize with the other person’s vantage point as well as clarifying your own. Are there win-win solutions? Where are you willing to compromise? Write this down.

Step #6:

Begin by checking in. Create space for genuine dialogue. Underscore your interest in finding a solution that works for everyone. Share your best understanding of the other person’s perspective and invite clarification. Listen.

Step #7:

Be ready to compromise. The goal is to arrive at something the two of you can live with, so keep expectations of getting your own way to a minimum.

Your conflict resolution skills in action…

By letting go and following these 7 Simple Steps, whether your conflict was external or internal, you’ve accomplished 4 goals. You have:

  • Effectively managed your time: Coming to resolution means you can move forward faster.
  • Enhanced your communication skills: Active listening and stepping away from power struggles make for more productive communication.
  • Reduced your stress: Letting go and accepting what evolves cooperatively allows you to move through life with more ease.
  • Resolved a conflict: As you transition from a win-lose to a win-win approach, you reach agreements that leave both parties satisfied.

So, what are other ways that you can enhance your communication skills, time management strategies, and overall productivity and success?

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