Your Inner Critic is NOT Someone You Need to Listen To

Your inner critic never helps.

Your inner critic whispers draining, debilitating messages in your ear more than you realize.

In fact, for many people, it’s an almost constant undertone.

And learning to recognize and root out those messages is an effort well worth undertaking. 

So many of us are plagued by this droning voice. It undermines at every turn, and because it’s in the background, it’s often challenging to recognize.

Do you know when your inner critic is speaking to you?

Here’s one reader’s experience:

Barbara in Cincinnati writes:

Dear Paula,

Thank you for your E-zine. The topics you write about are just exactly what I need to explore.

I don’t think I’m critical, and I’m not aware of my critic or her voice; so I don’t think this part is big in my life.

But things do bother me a lot. I am easily irritated by others, and find I never have enough time. I always feel I “should” be accomplishing something other than what I am doing.

Can you help me?

My response to Barbara follows:

Hi Barbara,

I think I can help you get to the bottom of this.

It’s very positive that you are in touch with your feelings. Use this access as an avenue to explore the distorting nature of your inner critic.

The first step is learning to identify her.

Absolute statements that include words like “should”, “ought to”, and “must”, are clues. So are verbal and nonverbal judgments about yourself and/or others.

Examples include statements like:

  • “You’re so dumb!” (Translated to “I’m SO dumb”) or
  • “I’m just no good”, or
  • “Who do you think YOU are”?

Get to know YOUR inner critic.

To get acquainted with your inner critic, I suggest you keep a journal, or diary where you document all messages derived from this voice.

That provides you with a frame and allows you to swiftly identify this voice. That, in turn, allows you to effectively reduce its potency.


Counter her messages with your objective, adult voice or with an affirmation.

With time and practice, this becomes more automatic. As a result, you’ll develop more positive control over your life and your time choices.

To your time success,


And here’s something more for you:

We all have voices that chatter at us throughout the day. Your Inner Critic is one of them. Learning to recognize (and counter) this destructive voice is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself.

You see, the Inner Critic is a negative, debilitating and constant presence in your life.  And it’s not just the words. It’s the judgmental tone, the rolling eyes, and the scolding wag of the index finger. Beyond sapping your energy and confidence, your Inner Critic robs you of time and profoundly distorts how you see others and how you feel about yourself. So, what can you do? 

Give yourself a big boost with my Exercise and Guide Book titled “These Critical Voices Are Driving Me Crazy!” How to Use Positive Self-Talk to Save Your Sanity and Your Time! Part of my popular Voices Package, this E-Guide offers simple, practical exercises, checklists and tips for learning to recognize and counter the critical voices that disrupt and hurt you.

“This guidebook is by a secret genius as far as I’m concerned.
Her name is Paula Eder and she is absolutely brilliant
when it comes to how to be in relationship with self and
how to be in relationship with time.”
Heather Dominick

You hold the power to make conscious choices about the kinds of messages you give yourself. As you exercise this power, you’ll develop new clarity and confidence – and transform your time.

“These Critical Voices Are Driving Me Crazy!” opens the door and gives you a roadmap, so don’t wait. Click this link to learn more about the Voices Package and get started on your empowering journey today.

Let’s explore time together …

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