Your Inner Critic Needs to Go – 1 Big Fact and 3 Timely Tips!

Woman Listening to Inner Critic

Listening to your Inner Critic is like drinking poison.

Everyone has an Inner Critic. It’s an internal voice that I struggle with as much as the next person.

So here’s the first thing I want to tell you: Your Inner Critic has NOTHING useful to say to you.

That’s so important that I want to repeat it (and I hope you’ll click to tweet this and spread the word about this destructive voice):

Your Inner Critic has NOTHING useful to say to you. (Click to Tweet)

So, since we all have an Inner Critic, what can we each do to quiet that voice? Yesterday I shared 2 foundational tips to get you started on your path to freedom. And today I’ve got 3 more.

This isn’t magic – it’s a skill you develop with steady practice – so I invite you to really own this process and practice the 5 tips I’ve shared in your daily life. Over time, small changes build into really big ones – and freedom from self-criticism is one of the most profound gifts you can ever give yourself.

Quiet Your Inner Critic: 3 More Timely Tips

  • Next, you can clearly and calmly NAME your critical voice whenever you hear it. Tell yourself, “This is my Inner Critic talking.” It may seem obvious, but naming is a quietly powerful step because, by labeling this voice, you make yourself, by definition, larger and more powerful. You assert that you see and hear what is going on. The messages of your Inner Critic are powerful only if you believe them, and naming the source means that you know the content is questionable.  This helps you separate yourself from your Inner Critic.  As you let in more light, the power of this fault-finder dissipates more and more.When you assert your power by naming this part of you, you begin to see the shape and contours of your Inner Critic even more clearly.  You see that this is a mindless voice of negativity.  It is not founded in facts or reason.  Your Inner Critic begins to look like a balloon whose air is slowly leaking out.
  • Another powerful step you can take is to counter the Inner Critic’s messages with calm, clear, factual statements. Don’t try to argue.  If you do, you just step into a power struggle that will lead nowhere.  So don’t react.  Simply speak directly to your Inner Critic from your place of power.  There will be no retort.
  • Be vigilant. As you recognize the critical messages you give yourself, name them clearly, and respond in a calm and grounded way.  This destructive voice has been a part of your life for a very long time.  It won’t disappear over-night, and it will never go entirely silent.  Typically, it quiets for a time and then re-emerges with a slightly different tone.

Want to learn more about this? My Exercise and Guide Book, “These Critical Voices Are Driving Me Crazy!” gives you proven exercises, checklists, and tips with step-by-step support to take back your power and quiet the self-criticism that saps your confidence, your energy, and your time. Click this link to get started!


  1. Exisle Empowerment says

    Thanks for a useful and concise article on dealing with the inner critic! There’s some more advice on this here which you readers may find helpful:

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