All of your mistakes can help you…
Your mistakes. What do you think of when you hear that phrase? What do you feel?
Is it a phrase that conjures shame and self-recrimination? If so, you are likely hobbling yourself, depleting your energy, and limiting your creativity.
That’s because accepting and learning from your mistakes is a fundamental, and perhaps paradoxical, building block for your success.
Your Mistakes Reframed:
What we call failure (and impulsively want to turn away from) can be looked at very differently. It all depends on a few key choices that we make. And those choices really do spell the difference between success and failure, in a deeper way.
I like to think of mistakes as opportunities to learn more about myself and about life. Looking squarely at ‘failure’ and accepting it opens up the treasures of information and insight that it holds.
Yes, it hurts, but it heals, too.
This isn’t to deny that failure hurts. When you really try and really fail, you really hurt. There’s no getting around that. In fact, experiencing the pain of failure and accepting it (and yourself) in the process reconnects you with reality. With your feet firmly on the ground, you will learn, deepen, and grow. You make use of your experience and move toward real success.
Denial, on the other hand, takes you away from the real world. What that means, in practical terms, is that you are likely to make more mistakes and experience more failures down the road. The more you deny, the more you step away from yourself and from reality.
If you think about accepting failure as a healing process, then it’s clear that NOT accepting it leaves you with an open wound.
Your mistakes and your relationship with yourself:
When you accept and learn from your failures, you are giving yourself a powerful message of compassion and friendship. Think about how you relate to a child who is learning a new skill. You don’t berate that child or turn away from her when she isn’t able to tie her shoes the first time.
Instead, you gently show her, as many times as it takes, how it’s done. You encourage her and cheer her efforts, knowing that her experience of this lesson will carry over into lots of other parts of her life.
It’s the same with you. Be kind to yourself, and let your failures teach you. So, how will you give this to yourself, starting right now?
Here’s some more help:
We all have voices that chatter at us throughout the day. The Inner Critic is one of them. Learning to recognize (and counter) this destructive voice is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself. You see, the Inner Critic is a negative, debilitating, and constant presence in your life. And it’s not just the words. It’s the judgmental tone, the rolling eyes, and the scolding wag of the index finger. Beyond sapping your energy and confidence, your Inner Critic robs you of time and profoundly distorts how you see others and how you feel about yourself. So, what can you do?
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