Your Moments: Live Them Fully No Matter What’s Ahead

Your moments
Your moments are what you have.

Your moments are the foundation blocks of your life.

And yet, living each of your moments when you have a big event on the horizon can be very challenging. 

It’s true for many, and I’m guessing this isn’t unfamiliar to you.

You’re pulled to focus on what’s ahead. And as you do that, you lose sight of what’s in front of you right now.

Some examples…

The other day I was talking to a friend who was returning to work after a sabbatical.  She said that the night before her return she wasn’t able to sleep. She tossed and turned until dawn. And she wasn’t even particularly worried or stressed. 

A woman I know through a virtual coaching group has shared her experiences with this. She regularly presents at coaching events. Her anticipation prior to speaking engagements often keeps her from being able to focus meaningfully on other tasks.

And who among us hasn’t experienced the anticipation of children waiting for Hanukkah or Halloween?  I well remember trying to keep a classroom of 5-year-olds on-task as the last day of school approached. It’s a humbling undertaking — and that’s putting it mildly.

The present moment is your moment.

Thich Nhat Hanh as written the following:

Life can be found only in the present moment. The past is gone, the future is not yet here, and if we do not go back to ourselves in the present moment, we cannot be in touch with life.

Thich Nhat Hanh

Large events, even if you’re fully prepared for them, will often “loom” over the days just prior. They overshadow each of your moments, sapping your focus and energy in the present. And it’s important to know that you can make a different choice.

I never think of the future. It comes soon enough.

Albert Einstein

It doesn’t matter whether you’re looking forward in anticipation or in dread. The “looking forward” moves you away from yourself and from your life right now.

Reclaim Your Moments: 3 Tips

So, what can you do to get back in touch with life when you find yourself caught up in the future? 

Here are 3 ideas:

  • Take a deep breath and sit quietly for a moment.  Pay attention to your feelings and let them simply flow through you.  Don’t hold on; just observe and let go.  Breathing in and out, your mind will quiet and the present moment will emerge.
  • If you are worried about a future event or looking forward to it, stop and write down 5 things that you are anticipating.  Promise yourself that you’ll be ready when the time comes and that you’ll check your list whenever you need to in the days ahead.  Then put your list in a safe place and let go of your anticipation in the present.
  • Sit quietly and think of three things that you are grateful for in this moment.  The attitude of gratitude is one of the most potent tools I have found for coming back to the present from tangles of worry or anticipation.

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