Your Self-Talk Affects You — How to Make It Friendlier

Tune into your self-talk, too.

Your self-talk has a significant impact on how you feel. And yet many of us are often unaware that we’re giving ourselves messages.

Your time management skills usually are most effective when you’re familiar with your time demands and your terrain. And I’d add, here, that it’s also vital to be aware of your energy and your feelings.

Paying attention to your self-talk offers you useful clues about those last two items.

If you’re facing a challenge or going through a transitional time, you may not know what your top priorities are at any given moment.  In addition, your challenges or changes may evoke emotional reactions. Your feelings and energy affect your perspective and complicate your time management efforts.

Here’s a Tip to Try

Your initial response in times of change and transition may be to recoil. This is when it’s very important to remember that you always have choices about how you respond. And this tip offers a way to enlist the power of self-talk as you navigate everyday challenges.

Tip: Compassionate curiosity can clarify priority conflicts in your schedule.

Action Step: Identify which time choices reflect your ambivalence about what matters most, and invite a friendly conversation amongst your options to arrive at a satisfying resolution.

Your self-talk empowers you:

Curiosity and compassion are truly transformative. They open possibilities that would otherwise not even be visible to you. When fear constricts you, introduce compassion and curiosity to your repertoire and see what happens.

And I love using the expression “friendly conversation” because it immediately reduces stress. In addition, it invites us to treat ourselves as we’d treat a friend. These relaxed, open internal conversations offer you a wealth of unexpected and useful information.

So, how will you incorporate this tip and action step into your self-talk repertoire?

Observe and celebrate the changes.

Here’s more self-talk help:

We all have voices that chatter at us throughout the day. The Inner Critic is one of them. Learning to recognize (and counter) this destructive voice is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself.

You see, the Inner Critic is a negative, debilitating and constant presence in your life.  And it’s not just the words. It’s the judgmental tone, the rolling eyes, and the scolding wag of the index finger. Beyond sapping your energy and confidence, your Inner Critic robs you of time and profoundly distorts how you see others and how you feel about yourself. So, what can you do? 

Give yourself a big boost with my Exercise and Guide Book titled “These Critical Voices Are Driving Me Crazy!” How to Use Positive Self-Talk to Save Your Sanity and Your Time! Part of my popular Voices Package, this E-Guide offers simple, practical exercises, checklists, and tips for learning to recognize and counter the critical voices that disrupt and hurt you.

“This guidebook is by a secret genius as far as I’m concerned.
Her name is Paula Eder and she is absolutely brilliant
when it comes to how to be in relationship with self and
how to be in relationship with time.”
Heather Dominick

You hold the power to make conscious choices about the kinds of messages you give yourself. As you exercise this power, you’ll develop new clarity and confidence – and transform your time.

“These Critical Voices Are Driving Me Crazy!” opens the door and gives you a roadmap, so don’t wait. Click this link to learn more about the Voices Package and get started on your empowering journey today.

Let’s explore time together…

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