Does honoring yourself with self-care seem like a foreign idea?
Well, in our culture, that may be the case. But I would argue that self-care is job one for each of us.
You know how the airplane safety instructions go, right? They always say to put the oxygen mask on yourself first. That way you’ll be able to help others. And that’s a good example of what I mean.
Honoring yourself with self-care is a necessity, not a luxury.
It’s about you and your life.
Finding time for what matters most, when we all have too much on our plates is a daily challenge.
It’s difficult for everyone. And it can be more difficult for women because so many of us are socialized to put others’ needs above our own. We do it almost without thinking. And often it can feel like a badge of honor. But this is a huge misconception.
Indeed, when we make choices like that we are depleting ourselves. We become less able to be present — to ourselves and to others.
But honoring yourself with self-care marks a big change in perspective. That’s precisely because so many of us have grown up with the notion that self-care is selfish. Couple that with the idea that we should be addressing everyone’s needs. Can you see how our plates quickly become full-to-overflowing?
Honoring yourself with self-care is up to you.
So, contrary to the myth that self-care is selfish, I want to emphasize that honoring yourself with self-care is actually a core responsibility. If we do not care for ourselves, we cannot be available to others, it’s that simple.
Even further, constantly saying yes to others’ wants is damaging to relationships, because it depletes you, drains your energy, and ultimately leads to feelings of resentment (often unspoken). It is also disempowering of the other person, to always have you addressing his/her needs, especially if you are doing things that the person could do him/herself.
On the other hand, saying no to others’ demands, and establishing a boundary for yourself, can be a gift to everyone involved. It can find you more time, strengthen your relationships, and give you back control over your life.
And this helps, too…
So much of this boils down to boundaries. And when it comes to that, do you know that you have a secret power?
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