Being Perfect — 3 Tips to Stop Holding Yourself Hostage

Being perfect is a standard that many people hold themselves to. It’s an impossible goal that leads to chronic frustration and feelings of failure. And it’s also a value that our culture rewards, even though it’s essentially a trap. Being perfect trips people up in many different ways.  One area where it may present challenges…

Perfectionism is Poison and Compassion is the Perfect Antidote

Perfectionism is poison. But what about your perfectionism? Maybe sometimes it’s subtle. And maybe sometimes it’s glaring. But on any and every level, perfectionism is poison and it exerts a paralyzing influence. So, would you say that perfectionism is poison for you? If so, the first challenge is to recognize it. Only when you see…

Toxic Fear Undercuts You at Every Turn, So Let It Go

Toxic fear is the very last thing you need, especially when you’re busy or under pressure. It eats up your energy and your time, and adds to your stress and feelings of overwhelm. But what do I mean by toxic fear? And how often does it creep into your thinking, distracting and undermining you? It’s…

Trapped by Perfectionism? 3 Keys to Open the Door

Are you trapped by perfectionism? If so, you trip yourself up at every turn. Finding time to address everything on your to-do list is hard enough. And if you’re also trapped by perfectionism, the difficulty is compounded (and then some). Nothing is ever good enough. So that means you never finish anything. Never. For many years…

Untangle Your Perfectionism with 3 Assertiveness Strategies

When you untangle your perfectionism you free up creativity and energy. Indeed, time management techniques to help untangle your perfectionism provide untold wealth. Because your standards are so high, time might be even more valuable to you than to many people. But your perfectionism may present challenges to living assertively. So you may sometimes feel…

Poisonous Perfectionism — 5 Symptoms to Look For

Is poisonous perfectionism something that has invaded your life? It’s extremely debilitating, yet, ironically, perfectionism is also often celebrated in our culture — at least to a point. What is poisonous perfectionism? Sometimes it’s subtle – sometimes it’s glaring. But on any and every level, perfectionism exerts a paralyzing influence. So, do you think that poisonous…

Perfect Poison — How Perfectionism Steals Your Energy and Time

What I call the perfect poison is a challenge for many high-achieving people, and perhaps most especially for successful women. It slows you down, skews your perspective, and steals your time What is this perfect poison?  It’s perfectionism. So, today I’d like to focus directly on the part of each of us that I call…