Don’t Let Perfectionistic Poison Steal and Sully Your Moments

Does perfectionistic poison ruin your moments? If so, the first challenge is to recognize it. Only when you see it can you apply the antidote. But here’s the problem; if you desperately want to be perfect, self-diagnosis can feel excruciatingly painful and difficult. It’s challenging to identify your desire to please and see how it…

Perfectionism – How It Distorts and Poisons

I recently heard a story that shines a light on the cost of perfectionism in a new way. It opened my eyes to an effect of this time thief that had not occurred to me before. A friend and colleague told me about a situation years ago when she was doing an annual review with…

Put Perfectionism in Its Place: Time Tips That Help

When you put perfectionism in its place you free yourself to be as creative and powerful as you actually are. You get out of your own way and start to see what you can actually do. Indeed, one of the great illusions about perfectionism is that it is the pursuit of excellence.  Nothing could be…

Stop Perfectionism in Its Tracks with Compassion — More Timely Tips

In a previous blog post about the childhood roots of perfectionism, I shared 3 tips to help you deal with perfectionism. This self-sabotaging time thief at once slows you down and wounds you. It presents you with an impossible goal, no matter what you’re doing. Then it proceeds to criticize what you produce and eat…

Let Go of Perfectionism and Let Your Holidays Be Real

Letting go of perfectionism allows you to enjoy your holidays more fully. This is because it lets you be grounded solidly in your moments. You are free to be present to all that the season offers. On the other hand, pursuing perfectionism sets you up to hold eternally unrealistic expectations. Let go and settle in……

Childhood Roots of Perfectionism — Find Them and Find Your Freedom

If you go back and explore your history, you may well discover your childhood roots of perfectionism. Indeed, perfectionism often takes hold in early childhood. And the earlier it starts, the deeper and more entangled are its roots. In previous posts, we’ve explored the challenges presented by perfectionism. So, now, I invite you to build on what you’ve…

Set Yourself Free from Perfectionism with These Timely Tips

When you’re free from perfectionism you have access to more energy than you might have ever known you had. So, where’s the key to that freedom? How can you give yourself this gift? Well, in a previous post about the dangers of perfectionism I shared some thoughts about the ways that it poisons your moments. And when you…